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Almost all male writers screw up even basic dimensions of women. It’s like they didn’t know that height and weight charts exist so you can come up with plausible measures.
(Also … the fact that numbers are being attached is a dead giveaway that this is a male writer.)
In one hobby I used to partake of, people had to write descriptions of characters. You could almost always spot the male writers. First, attaching actual numbers instead of making comparisons. Second, the ideal body type always came across as a broomstick with beachballs stapled to it.
How did this dud ever get mistaken for a genius?
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•Weekly chit chat week of 16th June 20252·5 hours agoYeah, that was me. But after pouring a lot of effort into eight of them and having them all just vanish in a puff of admin ire, I’ve decided I’m never putting that much work into a Fediverse thing ever again.
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•What did you try once and then resolve to never try again?5·16 hours ago<marvin>Don’t talk to me about life!</marvin>
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•The media's portrayal of an insatiable sex drive for all men has negatively impacted some of my relationships (Women-only trans-inclusive community!)5·17 hours agoOK, here goes.
Family is everything in China. The family values instilled by millennia of Confucianism dictates that all proper children will procreate. And the social pressure to procreate: to get married, and have a child (back when the one-child policy held sway) or multiple children (before that policy and after it) is immense.
Very few people are strong enough to resist.
So what happens in queer culture?
Well, queer or no, you will give your parents grandchildren. Which means that almost every queer person will wind up in a loveless marriage that’s torture for both parties solely so that the parental demand for a grandchild is delivered.
Now some techniques have evolved for this. Like the bearded marriages. A gay couple and a lesbian couple get cross-married so officially on paper there’s one man with one woman. But they live close to each other and in reality the man is married to the man and the woman to the woman. (The trans issue is … let’s just say it hasn’t arrived here yet in any real strength and leave it at that.) But very few people can swing a bearded marriage. So most queer people are going to be married to someone they don’t love and who will learn to hate them once the truth comes out (because it always will). Queer couples know this, at some deep level, and are resigned to it.
And into the mix come bis.
Bis can “pass” for straight. Which means that a bi woman, for example, can get into a lesbian relationship happily, but when the inevitable pressure happens, they’ll scarper off, find a guy, and live happily ever after, leaving behind a lesbian who is doomed to what I mentioned earlier. (Same for bisexual men and gays.) This breeds an incredible amount of resentment, as if the bisexual is just there for a few laughs, playing with the emotions of their queer lover before running off and living the straight life. As such, bisexuals are LOATHED in local queer culture; are viewed as worse than the worst. Worse, even, than a homophobe.
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•What did you try once and then resolve to never try again?11·21 hours agoHaving fun.
I tried having fun once, but I didn’t like it. So now I’m against it.
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•The media's portrayal of an insatiable sex drive for all men has negatively impacted some of my relationships (Women-only trans-inclusive community!)5·1 day agoAnother one who can’t read the rules. And the title.
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•The media's portrayal of an insatiable sex drive for all men has negatively impacted some of my relationships (Women-only trans-inclusive community!)5·1 day agoI also wonder how many secretly gay men are married to women and therefore not really enjoying the sex.
If you want to be horrified I can tell you about this aspect of Chinese culture… (It’s also why bisexuals aren’t just erased in China, they’re actively despised by the rest of the queer world here.)
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•The media's portrayal of an insatiable sex drive for all men has negatively impacted some of my relationships (Women-only trans-inclusive community!)7·1 day agoI’ve definitely shared this experience. I’ve got, even now as 60 closes in, quite the drive and that drive didn’t always match my partners’ drives.
And yes, in my youth I took it very personally precisely for the reasons you give.
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•Trans people of womensstuff, how included do you feel in the LGBT community?2·2 days agoWell to be fair I was kind of advocating violence (albeit in defence of self or others). Fair enough cop, no worries.
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•Who can see the pinned post with the rules?2·2 days agoUpdate: I can see the pinned post(s) now. Tesseract via lazysoci.al.
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•What traditionally men's fashions do you like to wear?5·2 days agoMen’s sweaters are usually warmer and more comfy. I love them. (SO hates that I love them.)
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•Trans people of womensstuff, how included do you feel in the LGBT community?5·2 days agoWe might indeed be agreeing vociferously! 😆
ZDL@lazysoci.alOPto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•#ManOrBear (WOMEN-ONLY TRANS-INCLUSIVE COMMUNITY: PLEASE ONLY WOMEN COMMENT OR REPLY)2·2 days agoWell you suck enough that you came into a space that was explicitly listed as “women-only” and “please only women comment or reply” and expressed your butthurt view. This clearly demonstrates the degree of respect you show women’s choices; why should we not look askance at your other choices in life?
Also, given that this very objection has been addressed AT LEAST THREE TIMES IN THIS FATHERMUCKING SET OF THREADS ALONE it appears that you don’t actually care enough about the opinions of women to actually READ WHAT WE HAVE TO SAY, indicating—again—that your disdain for women kind of puts you into the “sucks” crowd.
Have a nice day. Don’t post here again.
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•Trans people of womensstuff, how included do you feel in the LGBT community?9·2 days agoI didn’t say that groups shouldn’t reclaim slurs for themselves. (I mean I use “queer” myself, or when I feel especially spicy I’ll use some of the more ugly slurs of “Asians”.)
I’m saying that as a non-member I won’t use slurs to “reclaim” them. They’re not mine to reclaim and the process is fraught with too many chances of hurting people.
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•Trans people of womensstuff, how included do you feel in the LGBT community?17·3 days agoMy policy with any minority is to not use slurs of any kind, “reclaimed” or otherwise. Precisely because the ethics and social dance around reclaimed slurs is very complicated and very easy to fuck up.
And there’s no need for them. Anything that a slur, “reclaimed” or otherwise, says can be said without the “reclaimed” slur.
ZDL@lazysoci.alOPto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•#ManOrBear (WOMEN-ONLY TRANS-INCLUSIVE COMMUNITY: PLEASE ONLY WOMEN COMMENT OR REPLY)3·3 days agoI addressed this elsewhere in the ensuing shitstorm. It’s a question of risk management.
ZDL@lazysoci.alto WomensStuff@piefed.blahaj.zone•Who can see the pinned post with the rules?4·3 days agoComing in via Lemmy (lazysoci.al). I don’t see any pinned posts.
That is a very strong indicator of someone who identifies as male, yes.