I’m just a bi guy. I found out pretty recently

  • StrahdVonZarovich@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    Although I can see the uses in making up terms to define who you’re attracted to, I dont like the idea of putting yourself in a box. Ive had straight friends get really confused when they find themselves attracted to the same sex, and gay friends get really confused when they find themselves attracted to the opposite sex. When you “join” a sexuality you dont sign a contract or anything. A while ago I figured out I was bisexual. It was pretty great for a while, cause I was able to figure myself out and feel more free because of it. I didnt feel guilty for having certain thoughts. However, eventually I started to have some problems with the label itself. In this day and age, what even is a man or a woman? Ive found myself being attracted to people that dont identify as either gender. And isnt gender supposed to be a societal construct? In that case, why do we care so much about it in the case of define sexual identities? Im no philosopher or social scientist, so I may just be talking out of my own ass here so forgive my ignorance. Nowadays whenever some asks me my sexuality (which by the way is a very weird thing to ask people you just met in real life) I always say “on a case by case basis”.

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      1 year ago

      Opposite here, I’m bi but only ever been with a guy. I’m still with him, just worried about him

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    1 year ago

    Honest question: Why do you feel the need to categorize your sexuality? I myself am 40 years old and still don’t know which category I fit in. What need/itch do you fill by naming this part of your persona?

  • iam8bitwolf@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    Asexual, with no other qualifiers i.e. not demi or aego etc. I figured this all out when I was like 11 and, after over a decade, still hasn’t changed

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      1 year ago

      Some people forget that even if you’re in a heterosexual or gay relationship, you can still be bi. Family members who I’ve told I’m bi suddenly started to think I’m gay, just because I was in a gay relationship.

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    Actually not sure ay. I’ve been intimate with a big variety of people, but I still feel odd trying to label it. I definately lean closer to straight than anything else, but i dunno

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    1 year ago

    I’m only attracted to women, but I have an erogenous zone up my butt and I love getting blowjobs.

    It’s complicated.