We are a women’s only community, so please no male comments.
Edit: thanks all for reporting the hostile remarks! You really are an amazing group of people. Really appreciate how positive so many men have been as well. I see you all and value you ❤️
“White men”(sexist and/or racist old dicksack) need to “walk on eggshells”(can no longer say racist and/or sexist thing in a corporate environment).
I hate that I remember how to speak Fox News.
Yep it’s not a nice language to speak
Only bigots are afraid to “speak freely” at work. I speak freely all the time, and at work, you just have to not be marginalising or belittling or degrading someone else while doing it.
I don’t think that’s even true anymore. After winning the culture war, the bigots definitely seem more embolded to speak freely, at work or otherwise. Despite this, many to this day will express feeling like the powers that be are censoring them even though their political party dominates nearly every aspect of politics and public life.
I think this is an excellent point. Any reasonable person will accept a challenge if they unknowingly say or do anything inappropriate. Which they’re unlikely to do
To paraphrase a quote I really like:
“I say all the vile, racist and sexist shit I want to say, which is none. How much do you want to say?”
Jesus christ. I saw a thread in some other community the other day about Women’s Stuff and the men wah-wah-wahing like little babies about this sub were ridiculous. Same thing - in that thread some man was saying that when he replied to threads here he felt like he had to walk on eggshells.
You guys, all we want is one tiny corner of lemmy to ourselves. Somewhere we can talk about things that uniquely affect us -or- perhaps they affect men too but they affect us in a unique way due to our gender. And many men are cool with this concept and generally supportive (and a sincere thank you to those guys!) but a significant number are butthurt little babies about being unwanted here.
Those are the same butthurt little babies in the Fox News poll. If you can’t keep it civil in the workplace I don’t know what to tell you other than you’re a low-quality human. Have some fucking empathy.
Edit: here’s the post I was talking about.
I looked at that thread earlier and there were so many disgusting comments in there. It reminds me of why I left reddit a few years ago. The API changes and discussion of alternate places led me here, but I left primarily because of all the rampant misogyny, transphobia, racism, etc and the mods and admins who refused to do anything about it.
I really enjoy Blåhaj and the mods and admins here who actually care about kicking out bigots.
Also feel like this is very relevant here:
This, I miss the old Late Stage Capitalism Reddit circa 2016, 2015. I wish I could join a forum with those people again
99.44% of Lemmy is dominated by men.
One group out of thousand (maybe even tens of thousands by now!) asks men not to post.
The more emotional gender melts down.
It’s the circle of life.
Yep! They have the whole rest of lemmy to hang out in we’re literally ONE group. I saw the thread but I was heartened to see how many men were standing up for is, plus a man warned me about the thread so we could protect ourselves. There were so many men there moaning that they couldn’t come here and tell us we were wrong.
Both genders have the exact same amount of lemmy to hang out in. I dont understand why this community is so public if its meant to be a safe space. You can’t just post a sign that says “gurlz only” and expect it to actually work as a deterrent.
Thanks so much for dropping by! Ive had to ban you due to your behaviour, I hope you understand ❤️
You dont know what the hell you’re talking about, ask a trans guy, someone who has had both sets of experiences and whom you may actually listen to.
Lol i’m still getting replies whining about how it’s worse than hilter
To be fair, hilter was the wooooorst ;)
No he wasn’t, he never told poor mens that women could talk without their input! That’s a far greater crime!!
Love this, these men on Lemmy need some feminism 101 and some training. This is good for them and will improve the Lemmy community overall. (Which is why the misogynists are mad about it)
Or just talk about things without every single thread being about men and their shitty brittle little feelings and having to explain shit to them constantly because they’re dumber than rocks.
Kinda typing this on rocks right now, and they retain informatuon pretty well.
Getting an error on your link, but maybe that’s for the best.
I wonder if that post was deleted - if so, then it’s definitely for the best!
Unfortunately the link doesn’t work, could you tell me the name of the community? I’ve recently started using Reddit again because I lacked female content so much, knowing that such a community exists is amazing and I want to join
I would guess the link was to a post on the lemmyshitpost community on lemmyworld. There was a meme that mentioned this community and is now gone.
It was a meme about writing a “banger” comment and then deleting it to respect the women’s only rule. Discussion did what you would expect.
This community here at womensstuff is a women’s only place that is quite nice.
This is the community. The link is to another thread elsewhere where they were complaining about this community
Walking on eggshells = not able to say dumb racist shit without getting called out.
Tbh white women are equally as capable of saying racists shit, and work or not
So they think me demanding that they stop talking about my body in sexual terms is walking on eggshells. Entitled fucks.
This sort of shit is why when my husband offered, I went with stay at home housewife. The pay might be only in love and caring but at least no one feels entitled to my emotional labor or my physical labor or my mind or my body or my sexuality.
Afraid to speak freely about what?
Yep!!!
Those last two words are never asked, nor answered.
This reminds me of a former colleague. He’d always complain that he can’t say anything at work anymore and humor is forbidden. Examples were: Our suppliers don’t issue bikini model calenders anymore, even though that was some harmless fun! Also hanging up bikini model calenders is not allowed anymore! It was just some harmless fun. And back then female colleagues didn’t complain when you told them to make coffee for you. They are so uncooperative and easily offended nowadays!
“You can’t even tell a coworker that you think she’s cute any more!”
My brother in Christ, the new intern doesn’t need comments on her looks from someone who is (1) higher than she is on the org chart and (2) older than her actual father. Just stop.
If you wouldn’t say it to a male coworker, don’t say it to any coworker. It’s not that hard.
Yes and then I get told from other people (even my boyfriend) that’s just nice of them. Fuck it I don’t want to hear from some old, higher up that I look good. Had to kneel down to do something at work and that guy said: oh so nice to have a woman kneeling in front of me. Yeah and then I’m paranoid and a snowflake. Just some innocent comment on my look for sure.
I would start wearing a fcking wire to work after that, provided you arent in a 2party state. Get your bag if u can, fuck that guy
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walking on eggshells
Translation: considering who you’re speaking to when you speak to them.
Even 8 year olds know that you should think before speaking.
I work with a bunch of white men, and I’m definitely the one who has to walk on eggshells.
That’s excellently put. Many times I’ve had to be careful not to say anything feminist/inclusive around certain white men cos it’s professionally or even physically dangerous
If you’re a white man who feels like they have to walk on eggshells at work because of that white male identity, you’re pretty fragile. I’d hate to see you have to navigate the same social norms that non white males have to. You’d fucking crumble.
Yep, try being a black trans man ffs. They wouldn’t last a minute
The problem is that whenever they reveal that they’re terrible people, others treat them like they’re terrible people.
If they weren’t older straight cjs white males, the odd of them being fucking terrible would probably be a lot lower, because it’s very hard to turn into an absolutely terrible person without a solid dose of privilege for a few decades.
White men around my job site freely walk around with MAGA hats. The only eggshells I see are beneath those who would talk to them.
Can’t spew hate anymore without someone going ‘that’s not nice’. Political corectness gone mad.
Can’t we be awful to innocent bystanders in peace???
Im a man.
No we dont walk on eggshells. I walk on shoes.
Just one question to you women here. If you are trying to understand how men feel, wouldnt it be better to allow us in the community?
I dont think you will gain much insights talking about us rather than to us.
Thanks so much for your interest in our community! Don’t worry we have the rest of lemmy to hear how men feel. We are women only so I’ve had to ban you, and wish you all the best ❤️
I like how this guy thought we don’t know exactly how men feel or that we need any additional insight on top of just being bombarded with their opinions and world views at every possible angle.
Seriously, they must have no idea how many men use their partner are their sole emotional outlet.
We hear everything. Pillow talk gets pretty deep, possibly because a lot of men feel a comfort from a loving partner that they receive nowhere else. We hear their worries, their traumas, their insecurities. We understand and sympathize with men’s issues a lot more than men seem to realize.
Also, to the male lurkers: thank you for not commenting. I know it’s gotta be hard to have to hold back, but we appreciate it.
Everyone knows how men feel, there is no shortage of them voicing that at every opportunity, regardless if it having any validity.
Exactly what I wanted to say.
The source claiming men are walking on eggshells is literally fox news and you still try and pull the “you women” card
Absolute clown.
Every time I start to feel bad for these men, I remember every time I was either victimized or made to feel uncomfortable on purpose and I no longer feel bad about it. I think there is an aspect of me that is able to sympathize, but a bigger part is fucking bitter and wants to see them get a taste of their own medicine.
You do realise not every man hurt you right? We have feelings too you know, attitudes like this is exactly why suicide in men is so high at the moment
too bad, raise those numbers more with your whining
oh is it my turn now?
ahem…
please read the rules. Women’s only community.
Sorry about how you’re feeling, I do sympathize, but please share it elsewhere.
I don’t care if it’s a women’s only community, the double standards is disgusting, how do you think it would go down if I went online and posted that I hate all women and want them to suffer because I had a couple of bad experiences
Thanks so much for popping by! We are women only and keep this a positive community so I’ve had to ban you. All the very best 💘
I will break the rules too just to reply to you. She does not use the word “hate” even once AND she starts avoiding generalizing by saying “these men”… and here you are taking it personally, so I can just assume that you are one of “these men”, further proved by how you come to a women’s only space and then disregard their feelings/needs, thank you for proving their point.
Of course you don’t care. You’re a man! You simply must be heard. Especially when your precious fee-fees are hurt. We all know, after all, how fragile and emotional men are, what with all the hormones coursing through their bodies turning them into unreasoning, quivering piles of fraught emotion!
This whole thread and community is a bad solution to a real problem.
great opinion from someone who’s never ever commented on any post in this community save to complain about it being exclusionary after it pinged on the Upset Male Radar
I don’t sympathize anymore.
Your neeeeeeeeed to be heaaaaaaard is Not Our Problem
Don’t worry. If he goes another five minutes with more than two living women not worshipping his dick (one if his mom is dead), he’ll kill random strangers until it’s our problem.
Suffer how? Suffer from the consequences of your own actions? Fine! Let every person on earth answer for their crimes against others.
Women have been walking on eggshells among other horrors for 99.9% of recorded history for no reason, but we haven’t had the privilege until very recently to call it out. Men have to suffer consequences by witnessing the harm of their own actions for .00000001% of history and expect everyone else to weep for them. Either take some responsibility or shut the fuck up and let us have our fucking MOMENT of justice.
Im getting popcorn. You’re great.
Maybe every man needs a good reminder why hurting others is wrong. If some don’t hurt people they have nothing to worry about. Maybe those who are so resistant to seeing positive change have heavy burdens they are carrying and should look inward instead of outward.
Very cool.
This isn’t the place for your feelings. You were, in fact, asked explicitly to not comment. Why the fuck did you think you were entitled to?
Do you have literally any self awareness?
Don’t actually answer any of that here. I already know the answer. I think the idea of this place was for it to be a place women could talk about stuff without being dogpiled by subhuman filth, and not need to spemd rhe entire conversation explaining incredibly basic ehit to ‘people’ who are determined to not understand it.
Tell you what, edit that comment with a link to an explanation of all your feelings. Promise I’ll be nice.
If it makes you feel any better, it’s actually a result of psychological warfare in a post-mutual destruction world.
I hope they cut up their feet real bad.
The-the white people?
I’m sure you can dedogwhistle the post without me holding your hand.
Or I can feign shock again and you can misunderstand again in order to attempt to argue with someone on the internet!
Or you can speak plainly in an international forum who may well have people who don’t share your culture and thus don’t share your particular slang, you cubit.
I’m not from anywhere you’d recognize. English is my third language. Don’t assume.
Also, we make our own culture here.
“Don’t assume” says the person who assumed I wouldn’t know a place you came from.
Yeah, buh-bye.
May they step barefoot on many legos!
