I’m looking for a new instance since lemm.ee is closing by the end of the month. What’s a good instance to be on these days?

I’m looking for a instance with the fewest trolls, bots, and anyone that likes to take things to the extremes.

  • Nusm@yall.theatl.socialEnglish
    5·
    6 hours ago

    My recommendation would be to find a local instance - one that’s closest to you - and sign up for that. I’m not in Atlanta, but I am in Georgia, so I signed up for the yall.theatl.social instance (the server is in Atlanta), and I couldn’t be happier. It’s a smaller instance, but I converse regularly with the admins when I have a question or a problem, and they are accessible and always open to suggestions.

    I like it so much that I also use the theatl.social Mastodon instance as my main Mastodon as well. I throw them a few bucks every month to help with costs, and I’m happy to do it.

    I would agree with those who say smaller instances are the way to go.

    • darksiderbun@lemmy.caEnglish
      3·
      6 hours ago

      Yeah. Smaller instances for sure. I’m in Canada so I went with lemmy.ca and I’ve never had any issues and everything is just peachy 😌

  • Kierunkowy74@piefed.socialEnglish
    23·
    9 hours ago

    You might like https://piefed.social/.

    • Usual controversial instances (hexbear, grad, hilariouschaos…) are banned here,
    • Posts and replies with many downvotes are collapsed by default,
    • You can individually block any (whole) instance, community, users and linked domains. You can also filter the keywords,
    • Any much-downvoted user will appear with red warning sign
    • doctortran@lemm.eeEnglish
      9·
      5 hours ago

      Problem isn’t so much defederation policy in and of itself, as much as it is just the general level-headedness of the admins

      Lemm.ee’s lead admin had exactly the type of philosophy towards managing this platform that I want to see in wherever I go next.

      This post alone is what convinced me to create a primary account there. It’s professional, level-headed, nuanced, well spoken, and you can tell they’ve actually thought a lot about the big picture in an unbiased way. Not aggressive, preachy, standoffish, snarky, snobbish, and above all, not reactionary. Seeing the instance as infrastructure is what I want to see more of, but I also just want to see admins with this attitude overall.

      • db0@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        5·
        6 hours ago

        Unfortunately that philosophy led them to close down their instance due to burnout, so maybe it’s not exactly a winning one 😅

      • hendrik@palaver.p3x.deEnglish
        2·
        7 hours ago

        Fingers crossed, but we also know Lemmy might not be ready for that type of philosophy. I mean I still don’t know what exactly happened, but lemm.ee wasn’t successful in the end. And the underlying issues are still there. So the next admin team might face the same dynamics.

    • lemmyingly@lemm.eeOPEnglish
      82·
      9 hours ago

      Any website or service that utilizes the .zip TLD 🤮🤮

      I’m sure there are great websites and services that utilize it, but I have a strong opinion that the TLD should have never been put out there for people to use. I block all .zip TLD domains with no exceptions; and so unfortunately, I cannot use lemmy.zip.

      To be fair, I have no real opinions about lemm.ee. It was one of the instances that had the most users when I joined Lemmy, and as far as I’m aware it hasn’t received any real negative press.

      I’m more bothered about seeing or being associated with spam and/or an instance full of toxic people. I’m not a spicy person - or so I’d like to think.

      • fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        6·
        8 hours ago

        I’m more bothered about seeing or being associated with spam and/or an instance full of toxic people. I’m not a spicy person - or so I’d like to think.

        Zip’s a very trustworthy instance, all admins know about it; so i doubt anything wrong will happen in that regard 😉

      • tisktisk@piefed.socialEnglish
        6·
        9 hours ago

        is the TLD just aesthetically unpleasing or are there technical issues with zip archive files? Curious to know how one can judge one TLD over others just b/c I’ve never really thought ab it until now

        • lemmyingly@lemm.eeOPEnglish
          101·
          8 hours ago

          If you saw ChromeUpdate202506.zip, then what do you believe it is? A downloadable update for Chrome or a website?

          What if a malicious person has purchased that domain and filled the website with something malicious, a virus, an info stealer, etc?

          I block the .zip TLD because the domains can be used maliciously. Within the first few days there were hundreds/thousands of domains registered with names to look like zip files for updating software and the like.

          I also block the .mov TLD for the exact same reason.

          Sure on a good day you can spot the malicious intent from a mile away, but I like to protect for when I’m having a bad day. I also block the TLDs for the whole family as well because unfortunately they’re not as tech savvy or meticulous.

          • dil@piefed.zipEnglish
            1·
            2 hours ago

            could just let only lemmy.zip and piefed.zip through and avoid the issues still

        • ProfessorProteus@lemmy.worldEnglish
          11·
          8 hours ago

          Just gonna pitch in here, but I’m no expert. I was reading people’s reactions when that TLD was introduced, and they raised concerns over the possibility that a bad actor could spoof an address that actually downloads a .zip file to your device when you click the link, even though you may assume it’s an address to a page. No idea what a hypothetical virus could do from a compressed environment, but thats what I remember reading.

          Sorry to any experts if I’m muddying the waters with a dumb take!

  • MemmingenFan@feddit.orgEnglish
    13·
    9 hours ago

    If you ask 5 different fediverse users about their favorite instance you will get 15 different answers.

    • lemmyingly@lemm.eeOPEnglish
      8·
      9 hours ago

      Good good. I hope that’s the case. I’d prefer to see the variety of instances that people enjoy. :)

    • lemmyingly@lemm.eeOPEnglish
      2·
      8 hours ago

      I’ve not heard of Sopuli or .cafe before. Do they cater for a niche audience or something?

  • LostXOR@fedia.io
    111·
    10 hours ago

    I’ve had a great experience here on fedia.io. It’s a smaller instance, and it is running Mbin instead of Lemmy, but everything federates over so you get the same content. Might feel a bit weird switching from Lemmy, but if you feel like it I’d recommend giving it a try. :)

    We’re also defederated from Hexbear, lemmy.ml, and Lemmygrad if that’s a factor.

    • Fitik@fedia.io
      3·
      8 hours ago

      Enjoy it as well, I also love how reliable it is, it’s been around longer than software it’s currently running(Mbin). The the same admin also runs infosec.exchange, a pretty well known Mastodon instance

  • webghost0101@sopuli.xyzEnglish
    4·
    8 hours ago

    You dont need to limit yourself to just one, feel free to diversify your presence.

    But for a real answer: The smaller ones; The smaller the more respecfull they feel.

    Though more users does demonstrate capabilities. Not every server is fast or stable.

  • schnurrito@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
    121·
    10 hours ago

    I don’t see a lot of the things you’re trying to avoid on my instance. But I almost always browse “subscribed” and mostly have no idea what’s going on in communities I’m not subscribed to.

  • scytale@lemmy.zipEnglish
    7·
    10 hours ago

    .zip has the closest instance policies to .ee. A lot of .ee refugees moved there (me included). Some also moved to piefed if you’re considering that.

  • limer@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    81·
    10 hours ago

    looking for a instance with the fewest trolls, bots, and anyone that likes to take things to the extremes.

    All the instances are good in their own way, but at least one will irritate you very much, and it’s always different. There are ways each one can make you go “why???”

    There are commenters who will call one or more instances bad things. That may or may not be accurate for you.

    Each large instance has one or more crazy mods, all instances mostly have decent mods. Each instance will have multiple examples about why it’s good or horrible.

    • lemmyingly@lemm.eeOPEnglish
      4·
      9 hours ago

      There are some instances far worst than others other. I think hex bear has been defederated by many for example.

      And I agree with the crazies; I think it’s true for any group that’s large enough, regardless of platform or real world communities.

    • doctortran@lemm.eeEnglish
      2·
      9 hours ago

      This is a non-answer.

      What matters most is the type of people in charge of the instance, why the decide to do certain things, and the types of decisions they’re likely to make in the future.

      Not all instances are the same in that regard.

      • limer@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
        3·
        8 hours ago

        It is rather both sides, isn’t it?

        But, after poking around lemmy, I have decided there is value in all instances. There will be communities nestled in between the stuff I do not like. I like and dislike much on lemmy

  • CarbonIceDragon@pawb.socialEnglish
    6·
    10 hours ago

    I’ve been pretty happy with how the instance I use has been run thus far, but it is focused around furries, so it won’t be something most people outside that subculture like I expect. Still, the fandom is big enough that someone in it looking for an instance might look at this thread, so I mention it anyway.