I really need som tips on how to avoid getting trapped by my own hyperfokusing.
I very often i get completely consumed by either youtube shorts or something similar and i loose complete sense of time and spends literally 5 hours on just doom scrolling and wasting time. The worst part is that I’m hyperly aware that I’m doing it the whole time and I really want to stop but I just won’t shake myself off of it. I feel so bad because i should go walk the dog or go do my hobies instead. It happens the most often when I’m supposed to work from home and it makes the guilt feel even worse. If only I could do something for myself at least while not actually working. The only way I’ve found working so far is blocking the websites from me using blockers but I know that I’ll just either circumvent them or find something else that’s equally bad for me to hyperfokus on. And I do have legitimate reasons to use YouTube sometimes for work for tutorials etc so blocking it doesn’t really work so well for me.
How do I get out when I find myself in that trapped state? Let me know how you are dealing with it.
I wanna add that I’m medicated with methylphenidate but it doesn’t really work on getting out of the trap if I’ve first gotten in.
Smoking weed and playing video games most of the day hasnt worked so far but im no quitter
I work from home, and I have to use lots of methods. Then it works.
Just two examples:
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I always have to work strictly with todo-lists. When it’s not on a list, it’s not getting done. On the other hand, putting it on the list, rather than doing it, feels like 55 % of the mental effort.
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Implementation intention: My brain takes offence to “must do now” orders. Instead, when I catch myself on a youtube/scrolling binge, I set a trigger (e. g. time, end of video) at which I do one item from the list. If there is no list, I write the list. That way, I get to continue enjoying for a bit longer, but now guilt-free (!), and can continue guilt-free after doing that one thing.
I might steal this.
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When medicated I feel like it’s easier to stick to a task, but it doesn’t help me with picking the right task so I think I understand some of what you feel. The Time Timer has helped me sometimes when I just need the extra bit of external help. The act of picking it up and deciding to use it helps reaffirm my intention of working on a thing, and then the visual indicator of time passing helps my really really bad time sense to be moored to reality a bit better. The mental UHG of beginning the work task seems to melt away pretty quick after that initial step. Then the medication helps to let me proceed without my mind wandering. Other stuff is a necessity like physical activity and enough sleep. Getting out of a misdirected focus is tough, so I feel for ya.
My personal accidental variation on pomodoro - all those meetings I have to attend generate work, and interfere with my schedule. I always schedule time in my calendar for dealing with stuff from meetings.
So if I have a 1 hr meeting at 10a, I’ll add 30 minutes to it in my calendar (generally I only need 10 or 15 min). I’ll also schedule time in my calendar for work that needs doing, mostly to block time so meetings won’t eat up my day.
Sometimes those blocks are for specific tasks (e.g. Something that came out of a meeting) or just a general block so I can do some work between meetings.
No one needs to know why a specific time isn’t available in my calendar (no one has ever asked, and if they did, I’d say “I don’t know, I’d have to look” or tell the truth that it’s to work on something specific). Who could argue with that?
Memes always cheer me up
WFH and the biggest simple hack. Drink water… If properly hydrated you release fluid approx once an hour. Enough to get up and should allow for reset.
No data on this approach other personal experience
Awesome idea… But you won’t believe how good I’ve become at holding 😅
My Dad was a truck driver and died from bladder cancer. Please don’t hold it when you don’t have to.
Interesting organic approach
I just avoid working from home.
Unfortunately I’ve got nothing to add, just wanted to let you know I’m in the same boat. The feeling of guilt and the inability to structure my day are making me depressed. The company I’m working for doing an absurd amount of “status meetings” is the icing on the cake.
My husband deals with that, and one thing that has helped him quite a bit is setting alarms. If he knows he is taking on an extended task, he will set an alarm on his phone for every hour or so. When it goes off, it distracts him from whatever he was doing and interrupts anything he is watching, so he is reminded to get back on task.
Another tool is accountability to another person. If he is having a bad focus day, he will sometimes ask me to bug him if I notice he is distracted for too long. Use this sparingly. I have been this person for a few people with ADHD, and using this too often has resulted in me being responded to like a parent asking their kid to stop playing games and eat their dinner. You don’t want to end up viewing your friends and partners as though they are an authority figure.
Alarms actually does work. I use it for taking my meds and it’s working really well. I should maybe use it more for work as well. Thanks
As someone with ADHD and who also works from home 4 days a week, alarms are your friend. I have specific alarms set for tasks i need to get done every day aside from my main duties.
Depending on your job, setting up automations can also help. Anything to make your life easier will give your brain more bandwidth which ive found helps me focus better. For me, i have a script that automatically refreshes a webpage that i need to monitor all the time. I always keep this tab separate so that when it does refresh, i almost always notice.
I’m an automation engineer so this is literally my job. I’ve automated everything I can but since it’s my job it literally never ends.
Ah yea i see how that would be an issue. Someone else in this post made a comment about switching meds. Might be worth talking to your doc about it.
That said, its not uncommon for those of us with adhd to try to find dopamine when doing things we dont wanna do. Sometimes having a video on in the background can help and distract your brain a bit. The key is finding something that doesnt distract you too much.
Stuff you watched before can be good.
As another eng, let me suggest two things:
- Macrodroid can be configured to announce the hour every hour:
I find that helps me a ton.
2. Consider looking at getting a “Time Timer”. They are a little pricey for what they are but they a) move the alarm from digital – which is a mental space for me – to physical, and that seems to matter for my noticing it; and b) seems to be the only commonly available timer that ticks in a way that matches an analog clock, which allows you to align it with the current clock and see the hour burn down in front of you.
If you find something that helps you avoid “well… What’s 15 minutes more? This would feel good to be done…”, let me know. I’m now very aware of how much time I’m spending on shits and giggles.
Awesome idea. There is actually one of those time timers at work that noone uses. I’ll steal that for my WFH days. I used to use it at work myself before I was medicated and it helped me a lot but I forgot about it completely because while at work I don’t really need it anymore now I have my meds.
Have you tried the pomodoro method to try to help force yourself to take breaks?
The worst part is that I’m hyperly aware that I’m doing it the whole time and I really want to stop but I just want shake myself off of it.
I’d probably seek profession help on that one. That sounds like a legitimate addition.
Discuss with your doctor that’s prescribing your ADHD meds. It’s quite possible another medication or a different dose will work better.
I can only say that I had a very similar issue with concentration at work while WFH and getting on medication resolved it.
Beats the hell out of me. I’ve got no clue how I manage to get anything done at all, my focus just slides right off work.
Training probably? It’s a shitty answer but it’s something that I’ve only gotten good at with time.
I try to keep distracting devices away during work hours and I’m not too hard on myself if I get briefly diverted - I’ll let myself indulge for about fifteen minutes before I try and clamp down and refocus. I do think there’s a danger in trying to be too strict with yourself because your brain will be shit if you try to maintain continuous focus but you also can’t continuously indulge wander brain (at least - not unless you’re rich).
If I do indulge in 15 min distraction i have no stop button and i keep going for multiple hours and its so bad. I can only win of i don’t ever start, but it’s so hard.
That’s very fair - my brain is pretty responsive to alarms so I can use a timer to limit how long I’ll be submerged for. A trusted partner can also help.
Also corporations steal our livelihood and don’t give a shit about you, so don’t feel that guilty about wasting some of their time. I get it, I get the same way but I have to remind myself of this fact.
Actually i couldn’t care less about wasting company time, but also wasting my own time I could spend on enjoying stuff I care about makes me sad. The weather was nice today and instead of going outside in the sunshine and walk the dog I just wasted 3 hours watching crap YouTube
Schedule such walks in your calendar.
If you know it’s going to be nice tomorrow, schedule a meeting in your calendar for the time you should walk. Then, since it’s your work calendar, it’s just part of managing your day, you’ll feel more committed to it when you get the notification.
Fair. I do this even when I’m not working though too tbh lol.
I never go on YouTube or social sites on my work laptop. I either convince myself my work can see that shit or it’s probably actually true. So if I want to use those sites my option is my phone or my own laptop. The solution is simple then. Just lock them up or put them elsewhere. There is nothing on YouTube or social media you need for work that you can’t find on a regular text based webpage.
The pomodoro method works well too. You only have to focus for 25 minute blocks, then you have some 5 minute breaks in between.
