Does anyone say that it’s not? I guess there’s the “just get over it” and “it’s just in your head” camps. These camps couldn’t be more wrong.

Healing isn’t a straight line, and time doesn’t erase pain. It just teaches us how to live with it.

Sometimes “just” giving myself the permission to still feel is the hardest part, because it takes courage to admit that pain still lingers. That’s not weakness, it’s a sign of inner strength. In fact, this permission and naming the emotion create needed space for healing - allowing myself to be human and not be ashamed of it or to not live in denial of what makes me real.

Trauma may shake the foundation of anyone’s world, but it does not have the final say over our happiness.

Edit: spelling

I’ve heard it explained this way. The pain, tauma, and or grieving never really gets any smaller but you as a person can grow bigger and stronger so you must learn to live with it and learn how to deal with it.

It’ll always be part of you but learning how to talk about it and take care of yourself is the way forward.