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    I’ve always been a nerd. I share random trivia wherever I go, talk about politics and economics. Before transition, I could tell people all sorts of crap and they would believe me, or at least take me seriously.

    I transitioned and immediately the SAME MEN started talking over me. Using a higher voice and wearing a skirt was all it took. They knew I was the same person, I came out and started dressing femme and one week later I was sharing sheepish glaces with women as the men spoke over me. They didn’t know they were doing it.

    It’s not submissiveness or leadership, it’s how people treat you. Masculine voices carry and people listen to them. Feminine voices are talked over and ignored. It’s not malice or conscious bigotry.

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    On men being natural leaders, I’ve read that the stereotype of “men as hunters” is somewhat ahistorical when it came to actual hunter-gatherer societies. So it makes me wonder, when exactly did that idea come about?

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        It’s worse. Much worse than that.

        It’s the 1960s.

        The 1966 books Man the Hunter is pretty much the origin story of the whole assumption of an evolutionary division of labor where males hunted as providers and females gathered and cared for children.

        For a change we can’t even blame the Victorians. We can blame the Age of Aquarius.

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          Why would anyone ever blame the Victorians for anything?

          They brought us wonderful things such as steamships and child labour!

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            I know, it was a shock to me too. The people who originated most of the toxic “sciences” that put white men on top weren’t actually to blame for an incredibly toxic faux-scientific theory. Very rare.

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            I’ve been reading “Daily Life in Victorian England” by Sally Mitchell recently and everything I read as a big social improvement necessarily implies that this is not how it worked beforehand.

            Factory Act limits working day to 12 hours for people under 18. Employment of children under age 10 is prohibited. Textile mills could no longer employ children under the age of nine.

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        It’s kind of crazy how much baseline pop history can be traced back to “some Victorian dude made it up”.

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    Personally I think this is wayyyyy more nurture than nature. And I also think most people are not purely a leader or purely submissive - I think we all have aspects of both.

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    I’m literally a domme, so my very existence proves all those alpha male dudebros wrong about women being ~naturally submissive~. Not that they care about evidence.

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    Sometimes I really wonder just how much both get pushed into these specific roles, like for example when boys are given toy soldiers and girls are given baby dolls. Its kinda scary just how early this starts

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      It’s why Babrie dolls are so significant. They were the first doll that didn’t have some kind of gimmick of constantly needing care (being a literal baby, needing to be fed etc.). Barbie was marketed as a fully independent woman.

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        I agree but Barbies could still enforce traditional gender roles. My Barbie had a washer and dryer, ironing board, vacuum, and a fridge. Other accessories existed too but these are the ones I was given. It would’ve been nice if my Barbie had scrubs, a briefcase, a basketball & hoop, paints and an easel, a bike or kayak… anything other than just housework to do!

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    About 99.93% environmental, 0.07% genetic if we go over all genes (as genetically we are basically related to animals in the primate family) as all humans are effectively clones (when compared against the genetic diversity in other species) so although there are genes that increase likelihood of aggression and ambition; their expression is usually a subset of the outcome.

    There is no gene for female submission to males in humans (or any other species of which I am aware); the closest genetic thing to that is the genes for homosexuality (literally a spectrum of heterosexual/homosexuality)

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      Is your argument that because only around 0.07% of our genes are different between individuals, their effect can also only be 0.07%? Because that doesn’t convince me, a small difference can have a large effect.

      Not that you need to convince me of your claim, just wondering if I understood the argument.

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        Excellent deduction (and spot on).

        Fair enough, it only takes a few genes to have childhood leukemia or sickle cell anemia but even with genetically identical individuals (twins for example) there are also significant examples of behavioral differences (suicidal bomber, pedophiles, etc) between them.

        So it is hard to find a good number that wasn’t just a feels good number and so my entirely rough guess was based on how clonal humans are (genetically speaking).