• Lovable Sidekick@lemmy.world
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    The story of Achilles has always creeped me out. Imagine getting shot in the heel with a fucking arrow. Seems like one of the worst places. OTOH I guess no place is exactly good.

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    I see no such weakness for you. Unless there’s a new pug anime I need to watch. In which case why have you been holding out?

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      Yah at this point I do associate anime identity association with immaturity, and I’ve enjoyed a great many animes.

      I just cannot imagine connecting so much that I want others to see me and think it’s part of my own identity. It feels like the hallmark of someone with very limited media exposure.

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        Brother it’s a picture. I’m not giving the internet my real face. I’m not uploading a picture of my lifted truck nor my hellcat. Some of yall are just haters projecting. It ain’t that deep.

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          The topic is about the perceptions of others, it’s not deep to you but someone else might read into, particularly if you find yourself having a serious (deep) conversation and don’t want to be judged unfairly. If you don’t care about your self-presentation or how to manage the impressions others have of you, then great, no need to even comment here.

          If you do care, and yes you do, then think about it from someone else’s perspective.

          This “the curtains were just blue” or the “just put the X in the bag” anti-thinking mentality is eroding our whole world. Try to avoid doing that.

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            Yes I fully understand some people have genuine mental health issues and believe a profile picture being rooted in a form of media someone else personally enjoys somehow invalidates their opinion. The people who truly hold this perception, themselves, often don’t understand or hate from the outside.

            Those who don’t understand something will often degrade or disregard it in an attempt to maintain credibility with others who share the same warped views. This is tribalism mixed with counter culture.

            There is no foundation for a good faith discussion. To what end would telling an idiot they’re an idiot grant either of us?

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              Yeah, I’m actually surprised to see so many people agreeing with this bullshit on Lemmy.

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              You likely hold many such superficial judgements, we all do about something or other. I don’t think I would frame it as “mental illness” without expecting a lot of pushback from such an inflammatory statement. Normal, healthy people make judgements all day long based on the most superficial of ideas and perceptions, the question is how much you personally care.

              If it’s strangers on the internet you’re just bullshitting with, I can’t imagine caring about how some stranger perceives you. But these things can become self-harmful if you’re genuinely trying to be heard and understood about something that’s important to you. If you’ve spent any amount of time on social media (including forums like this) I’m sure you’ve seen this play out over and over, where people end up deeply stressed because they’re talking past each other and dismissing each other’s actual feelings about things that are important to each other.

              This is what I decry, the lack of effort to be heard about important ideas, even if subjectively important, we’re all collectively really neglecting effort and embracing anti-intellectual catchphrases (just put the X in the bag, the curtains were just blue, I ain’t readin all that, etc.) and making our lack of effort to communicate other people’s problem when it goes wrong.

              If you think none of this matters, end up in a role of responsibility and have to spend a month interviewing people for a role of great responsibility and sifting through the masses of young people who make zero effort and feel entitled to rewards for it.

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        It feels like the hallmark of someone with very limited media exposure.

        You could say that for anyone using any pop culture reference as a pf pic, really.

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          Sure, and I do, but anime profile pics come with extra baggage and we all know it.

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              You don’t have to agree with me, the topic is about people generally and their perceptions, if this wasn’t something shared by a number of people this wouldn’t be a post. You can disagree with me all you want, you will still encounter people who will judge in different ways depending on how you present yourself online. If you don’t like it, go change the world.

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    On Lemmy I feel like we do the same except for instances. Some person signs up with an instance oblivious to its politics but will get judged based on it.

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    Hot take: it’s totally fair to judge someone based on their avatar as that’s literary what it is, a pictorial summary of what you’re all about.

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      Obviously anyone is free to judge anyone based on whatever criteria they want.

      People are allowed to have whatever impression they want over something like anime pfps. That person who decides it’s some crazy negative red light or whatever, just won’t be my friend, which is fine. Sometimes people forget that not everyone has to be your friend.

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      Fully agree, you choose profile pictures based on how you want to present yourself to the world. It does communicate a message. A message that if not chosen with some level of care will signal different things to different people.

      If you come to a party wearing a stained shirt and haven’t showered I will assume you don’t actually care. Likewise, if you are arguing politics or mature topics and your profile pic is some obscure, underage anime girl, I will also make assumptions about how much actual media exposure you have that you choose to present yourself to the world with that image.

      This isn’t persecution or discrimination, this is just how people relate to each other, particularly in an information world where we can’t judge the rest of you.

      edit: based on the replies and threads in this post, it’s wild how many people do not give a shit how they are perceived by others in any regard and are angry at the idea that someone might judge them for how they present themselves. And then we wonder why everyone is so lonely and angry and cynical. These are related concepts guys, you HAVE to learn to socialize better. Seriously, this avoidance of accountability is eroding the whole fucking world.

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        You’re judging them based off of what is ostensibly a first impression they have chosen for themselves. I can’t imagine a scenario where that’s not fair. And you don’t need to form an entire opinion, but the opinion starts there. If their picture was a sports team I didn’t like, some furry shit, or even MAGA, I’d form some opinions out of the gate.

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          I do the same. I don’t have the time or patience to listen to every person on the internet to understand where they’re truly coming from. What I meant is if I did I would probably find out that more often than not my initial assumptions were too harsh or otherwise inaccurate.

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            That hasn’t been my experience. My experience is that my first impressions are woefully incomplete, but rarely wrong.

            You aren’t reading the wrong book, you’re just only getting the prelude chapter.

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      Counterpoint: sometimes it’s just a funny picture I like, and sometimes it’s some anime titties I like. Assuming it’s always going to be a meaningful representation of the user is unrealistic.

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        Counterpoint: sometimes it’s just a funny picture I like,

        Fully fair, likewise it’s also fully fair for someone to make judgements on you based on that funny picture if you choose to engage in different kinds of conversations outside of the space where people joke about funny pictures.

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          Sure, just like it’s fully fair for people to clown on someone for judging them based on something as unserious as a social media profile picture.

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            Then congratulations, now instead of engaging and interacting it’s just an immature schoolyard shouting match which could have been avoided by taking more care in how you present yourself.

            But I am gathering that there are a lot of people who really enjoy schoolyard shouting matches and invite them because it makes them feel superior to fight others over trivial nonsense.

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              Or, and hear me out here, instead of escalating to a “immature schoolyard shouting match” for whatever reason, you could look at a person’s pfp, have your feelings about it, and then move on to something that actually matters

              But I am gathering that there are a lot of people who really enjoy schoolyard shouting matches and invite them because it makes them feel superior to fight others over trivial nonsense.

              The irony of you saying this is not lost on me

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        I mean it tells me that you’re somebody who weighs levity over seriousness. Even if it doesn’t specifically tell me who you are, to imply that any choice is devoid of meaning is equally unrealistic.

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            Bro do you think I typed this through clenched teeth or something? My comment was in exactly the same light tone as yours.

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              Nope, just clarifying since you seemed to be confused. Anything else I can help with, let me know partner

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        In my mind, some edgy-looking anime dude is very different from anime booba.

        While both remove validity of argumentation, the former probably means you’re a minor, and the ladder means you will never have a social life outside the internet.

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          Doesn’t the ladder increase the odds of a social life outside the internet? Am I the only who watched Clarissa Explains It All? It’s called a social ladder for a reason!?

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          I love that you’re getting downvoted for this accurate assessment of how adults engage with each other.

          Honestly, I realized a while back that Lemmy is largely kids. Like, to me at least if you’re under 25 you’re a kid, and I think most users here are even younger. Maybe across the social internet broadly we have massively misjudged how many adults actually shape our global conversations.

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            It’s obviously based purely on my own (admittedly vast) experience on the internet.

            I think the average age here is much higher than on reddit, for what it’s worth. Playing lots of video games, though, has taught me that at least half of the adults act like children anyway.

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      A lot of people don’t treat it as such though, and thus it becomes odd to assume so. But some things are just downright questionable, obviously.

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      If you witness that kind of exchange taking place, you can probably toss the entire convo out.

      Although, I would lean more towards the furry pic than the anime pic, at least furries are largely autistic adults who consume a ton of information and may have more educated opinions on some topics. At least from my experience working adjacent to the tech sector.

      Whereas a suspiciously large percentage of people who choose anime profile pics are just saying “this is a cartoon girl I want to bang” while also being a raging nazi online.

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      Furry pfp means chaotic neutral. They can do whatever.

      Also, they drew the pfp themselves on some drawing tablet.

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        I used to shake my fist at how many people had really shitty hand-drawn furry profile pics and often made the judgement that they drew furry shit just because it’s harder to draw people’s faces.

        Now I instantly praise anyone who has any kind of low-quality but obviously non-AI made imagery on display to the world. I don’t care if it’s ball-point pen on lined notebook paper. You rock on with that artistic bravery king or queen.