Men are what happens when you indulge tantrums. Women mature earlier, so there’s this really early period when boys are behind. The boys get mollycoddled, the girls are shamed and belittled, the boys get used to having thumbs on the scale in their favor, and to being defensive. The girls are conditioned to modify their behavior for the benefit of others. I think this is a very key building block for the larger prejudices in society later in life.
We disagree, instead we understand that it’s what happens when you emotionally suppress somebody, when you teach them that genuine regular and healthy emotional expression is bad and thus they learn that they must suppress it all until they explode.
Women mature earlier
This is an often given idea but it’s not inherent to women and it’s kind of messed up that this is often seen as a good thing since it can be through very dire circumstances which they are forced to, and/or it’s just society conditioning them to, it’s not necessarily an inherent biological truth or anything like that.
The boys get mollycoddled, the girls get shamed and belittled.
Whilst we agree that there are a lot of ways children assigned different genders at birth are treated we wouldn’t say looking after children’s emotional needs is bad and there is a fine line between ‘mollycoddling’ and actually looking after children as they need to be. It just feels dangerous to us as seems to be being suggested here that it’s okay to not look after children’s emotional needs as that is what causes dysfunctional and unhealthy teenagers and adults more often than not. We do completely disagree with shaming and belittling children at all, to be clear.
Yes, the way we treat and train different people of different actual or assumed genders is extremely messed up, but we must be careful in our analysis of what is actually going on rather than looking to some, if not all, outdated or not well understood stereotypes or ideas about people, biology, sex, gender and society.
[Sincere] We hope this clears up our thoughts and viewpoints and we hope you are well 🙂.
How so? It’s just mentioning their observations about common societal expectations, how society often treats people, and what behavior is accepted or not, all based off of someone’s perceived gender, and then how that ends up affecting people. I’m curious what your issues with the comment are.
*Edit: or did you mean that the phenomenons that the comment describes are the messed up views? Maybe I misunderstood your comment.
Men are what happens when you indulge tantrums. Women mature earlier, so there’s this really early period when boys are behind. The boys get mollycoddled, the girls are shamed and belittled, the boys get used to having thumbs on the scale in their favor, and to being defensive. The girls are conditioned to modify their behavior for the benefit of others. I think this is a very key building block for the larger prejudices in society later in life.
We disagree, instead we understand that it’s what happens when you emotionally suppress somebody, when you teach them that genuine regular and healthy emotional expression is bad and thus they learn that they must suppress it all until they explode.
This is an often given idea but it’s not inherent to women and it’s kind of messed up that this is often seen as a good thing since it can be through very dire circumstances which they are forced to, and/or it’s just society conditioning them to, it’s not necessarily an inherent biological truth or anything like that.
Whilst we agree that there are a lot of ways children assigned different genders at birth are treated we wouldn’t say looking after children’s emotional needs is bad and there is a fine line between ‘mollycoddling’ and actually looking after children as they need to be. It just feels dangerous to us as seems to be being suggested here that it’s okay to not look after children’s emotional needs as that is what causes dysfunctional and unhealthy teenagers and adults more often than not. We do completely disagree with shaming and belittling children at all, to be clear.
Yes, the way we treat and train different people of different actual or assumed genders is extremely messed up, but we must be careful in our analysis of what is actually going on rather than looking to some, if not all, outdated or not well understood stereotypes or ideas about people, biology, sex, gender and society.
[Sincere] We hope this clears up our thoughts and viewpoints and we hope you are well 🙂.
This is a very messed up view.
How so? It’s just mentioning their observations about common societal expectations, how society often treats people, and what behavior is accepted or not, all based off of someone’s perceived gender, and then how that ends up affecting people. I’m curious what your issues with the comment are.
*Edit: or did you mean that the phenomenons that the comment describes are the messed up views? Maybe I misunderstood your comment.
We will respond to the comment directly with our issues with it since that is easier on an app.
That is a very ambiguous criticism — view of poster or view of society?
We have responded to the original post in this thread with our views.
is this actually true, or are women and girls expected to be mature earlier? and therefore forced to be?
iirc the onset of puberty happens earlier but the rest is 100% societal expectation