This typically happens to me when I’m in the middle of something or when I’ve been trying to think my way through some problem for a long time.
It’s not zen because it’s like I literally don’t exist, and when I do come back around, I think “shit I’m wasting time I need to get back to things” and then it happens repeatedly so i dont make any progress.
My boyfriend is like that. If I were to describe his mind most of the time, it is like a zen garden where he calmly walks around and looks at things, tidies up the sand patterns, grooms a bonsai tree and drinks tea near a mini waterfall that makes nice trickling water noises.
When I would ask him what he was thinking and he’d say nothing, I didn’t believe him during the first few years of the relationship. Now I understand that he just genuinely thinks about nothing sometimes and is just living in the now. It is very peaceful and it isn’t that he has tumbleweeds in his head. Not at all. Things are happening. The trickling water, the ripples in the sand, the pruned trees. It is just peaceful wandering in the now until he has to activate critical thinking, emotional thinking or any other thinking.
I have sort of learned how to do it from him over the years. It just isn’t something I’m very good at holding onto for long, but I have had moments where I set foot in the zen garden too and I would love to be there more often. My brain just won’t allow me.
There’s people out there with nothing happening up there?
Like tumbleweeds just gently bouncing through?
I cannot conceive of that.
This typically happens to me when I’m in the middle of something or when I’ve been trying to think my way through some problem for a long time.
It’s not zen because it’s like I literally don’t exist, and when I do come back around, I think “shit I’m wasting time I need to get back to things” and then it happens repeatedly so i dont make any progress.
My boyfriend is like that. If I were to describe his mind most of the time, it is like a zen garden where he calmly walks around and looks at things, tidies up the sand patterns, grooms a bonsai tree and drinks tea near a mini waterfall that makes nice trickling water noises.
When I would ask him what he was thinking and he’d say nothing, I didn’t believe him during the first few years of the relationship. Now I understand that he just genuinely thinks about nothing sometimes and is just living in the now. It is very peaceful and it isn’t that he has tumbleweeds in his head. Not at all. Things are happening. The trickling water, the ripples in the sand, the pruned trees. It is just peaceful wandering in the now until he has to activate critical thinking, emotional thinking or any other thinking.
I have sort of learned how to do it from him over the years. It just isn’t something I’m very good at holding onto for long, but I have had moments where I set foot in the zen garden too and I would love to be there more often. My brain just won’t allow me.
As someone who has been diagnosed with ADHD as a child and then 20 years later as an adult. Yeah
I have hours where I think multiple days of thoughts and days where I space out most of it lol
Im fucking big jealous, sometimes I wish I could have that peace.