• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    I’ve known parents who removed doors from their kids’ rooms because they don’t want the kid to lock them out.

    Not as uncommon as you’d think.

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        2 days ago

        Do their kids still talk to them?

        Some, yeah. Others, no, but typically for more pronounced reasons.

        Really depends on how financially independent the kid managed to get from the parents. You’d be surprised what someone will put up with to stay in a rich family’s good graces, particularly when they themselves failed to launch

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      It’s completely idiotic because internal door locks, the kind in the knob, have a little hole that you can use a tool to unlock it from the outside. I think it’s meant for in case of emergency, but the point is they’re trivially easy to unlock.

      The parents are more likely control freaks.

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        You could also just remove the knob and the door still functions for the most part. It’s actually harder to take the whole door off

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          You can take the door off in like five seconds. Just grab the hinge pins with a pair of pliers and yank them out. Especially if it’s an internal door, because it’s probably hollow (and thus extremely light.) Removing the front door would suck, but only because it’ll be solid.

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      I removed my daughters door for a week because she wouldn’t stop slamming it, even after having to pay for the second replacement out of her allowance. I hung a blanket across the door frame. She still slams it every once in a while when she’s mad, but no where near as often, and now her door has a lock.

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      a window was open in the house and I accidentally shut the door too loudly one time and my door was removed for weeks months (there was no history of me slamming doors, I think punishment for the sake of punishment was the point)

      no privacy for changing, sleeping, etc. - it was stressful

      EDIT: I just remembered it was more than weeks, it was months - I had journal entries about wondering when I would ever get my door back.

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        I had no knowledge of how common grounding by door removal was until today

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          The first thing my mom did when we moved into our house when I was 8 was take my door off it’s hinges. It wasn’t even a punishment, I just wasn’t allowed to have one, i just got a curtain. My dad installed a door on my room when I was 17, two weeks before I moved away for college, because it was about to become the guest room, and wouldn’t it be weird if the guest room didn’t have a door?

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          To be fair, the door removal punishment would have been considered authoritarian / strict / extreme, it was chosen by a step-parent, my birth parents would never have punished me that way (even though they did use corporal punishment on me when I was young, they in general weren’t that “strict” or authoritarian as parents).

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      Yea my parents did that. I didn’t want to spend time with them because they were abusive assholes (why yes, CPS were called!), but apparently that meant there was something wrong with me, so they took the door off my room so I couldn’t have a safe space from the constant screaming and violence. Guess who swung hard Trumpy antivaxx Q believers in 2016?

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      I know parents who removed the door from their kid’s room because she was playing with matches in her room.

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      My parents just ensured the lock on the door knob had a slit on the outside so you could stick anything in there and rotate to unlock it. Half the time, they just used a long fingernail or the edge of a coin. It didn’t require much effort.

      They’d still get mad at me for locking my bedroom door and would threaten to remove the door if I kept locking it, but it took them maybe 10 seconds to open it without tools.

      They never followed through on the threat; I kept my bedroom door all throughout my childhood.