Recently had a talk with hospital employee friend about ED and how it’s exceptionally preventable and 9 times out of 10 caused by sedentary lifestyle resulting in poor circulation. Pass it on to bro, I guess.
Doesnt diet affect it too with cholesterol or something?
Average gamer moment
It’s so rare for guys to open up like this. Usually you’ll get some little comment about not being OK but if you try to address it directly or even just țry commiserating they’ll get uncomfortable and back out of it with some thought terminating cliché like “it is what it is.”
Someone actually having a breakdown and opening up about their problems would be so much easier.
It’s so rare for guys to open up like this.
Unless they’re hammered, which was the case here
bro is having a rough time, and all his ‘friends’ abandon him and him his problems are wrong . . .
First greentext that’s actually believable
Men don’t talk about shit.
Source - am man
Oh they talk shit. Maybe you just dont hear it because its about you.
But male loneliness is totes the fault of dem wimmenz
Nobody outside incels say that and they don’t represent men at large.
Time and place for everything.
You usually don’t choose when you have a mental breakdown. The big thing here is that he crashed out and not a single one of his friends cared about his wellbeing enough to try and help. Just got told to go to a doctor.
I mean not every situation is one where people are prepared to drop everything and be the emotional support.
Just got told to go to a doctor
Probably the best advice though
What was he supposed to say?
“Alright bro. I might not be a doctor, but I’ll help you get an erection. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)”
Comfort him. Let him know that he’s not a leper all of a sudden for having a moment of vulnerability. Listen. Make sure that they understand that they’re heard.
These are pretty basic forms of emotional labor that go a long way in helping folks, and can even save lives at times.
This is good advice, thank you for the reality check.
“Oh you broke your arm? Don’t worry bro we will support you and set your arm right. No doctor needed.”
Saddest greentext I ever saw, real and straight
Fake: anon has friends
Gay: anon has drunk conversations about dicks
Anon imagines a group conversation of men all discussing dicks.
I’m guessing those drunk conversations about dicks are to himself in the mirror, since he has no friends to talk to for that matter.
I hope he manages to find help. For his sake and that of his family. His bros do not sound particularly supportive
I dunno, I think it’s asking a lot of drunk guys playing videogames to suddenly snap in to support mode on the spot like that. Even sober if someone just snapped and started ranting about something that personal with no context and nobody knew before I can’t say that I’d be able to respond in a perfectly supportive manner.
At least in this totally real situation they had one friend (OOP) that was able to give some slight form of acknowledgement, even if it wasn’t particularly emotionally comforting.
I dunno my friends are pretty solid with emotional support when drunk or sober its not that complicated
I think the current mind state of the group is more important than sobriety or gender (though both of those probably play a role). At least for me, I can have a hard time immediately switching gears socially, that coupled with the shock of having someone start ranting about something I had no idea of, would be hard to be a total role model. I’d probably end up doing something similar to OOP, I definitely wouldn’t awkwardly leave because I’d feel too bad, I’d probably ask if they’d talked to anyone or seen a doctor but if the other guy was also super drunk and ranting I don’t know how long I’d be able to stick around
I mean, drunk d&ms are absolutely a staple, but they kinda migrate organically, not dropped in the middle of other activities
It is such a clear sign of differences in socialization, because you will never find a more supportive group than a bunch of drunk female friends (in my experience). Really sad to see the lack of men supporting men, but hopefully it’s getting better as the years go on.
It doesn’t seem to be getting better, at least not for me and in the wider USA. It can be really tough having no friend group and going it alone.
Extremely sorry to hear you’re having a tough time. I’m not a guy, so I cannot speak from direct experience, but just judging from my male friends it seems like the “find a social hobby” advice really works. I know you didn’t ask for advice, but I really don’t have much else to offer other than my sympathy. I hope things get better for you (and everyone tbh).
Well, it’s better than nothing. I’m glad to hear there’s more people with compassion and empathy
What the fuck has that poor VietCong got anything to do with this?
they became Venture Capitalists
No they are inside the Videogame Console
anon leaves the VietCong
Makes sense
Poor bro :(
It’s funny because if this was about a woman it would be a Lifetime movie, but toxic males deserve only scorn.
Punching up is fine. Men run the world, and women are mistreated, often considered property (or we should “get back” to that time), so yeah, leave women out of this. We shouldn’t punch down.
Edit: cool. In a post where we could have otherwise discussed healthcare of men in society, the above poster is the one who brought up women getting special treatment, but I’m the one who is the problem.
Okay
Up is subjective and arbitrary. It implies that there is a strict and clear hierarchy to oppression, discrimination, and marginalization and ignores intersectionality. If a black woman is shitty to a disabled white woman, is she punching up or down? How do you weigh the different traits that lead to marginalization? Who’s above who? How does this change as conditions change (for example racism in China vs racism in America). And in the end, what goal is it helping you achieve? Is it an effect strategy to achieve that goal? In the end, there is a more complex situation at play here that can’t be boiled down to “you’re above me so it is okay for me to be shitty to you.”
Up is subjective…
Very true
…and arbitrary
er… not quite as true.
Are black women making TV shows about disabled white women?
Nah, it’s more the whole “punching up is fine” thing.
Above this is plenty of discussion about how his friends did him dirty, and trying to piece how this coulda gone better, a better response to the dude immediately going “BuT IF A wOmaN!!” Would have been “so why don’t you make changes instead of going to the blame well?” Instead of “punching up is fine”
They’re not punching at women, they’re trying to point out a problem in western society: men with problems like these tend to struggle to find help compared to women.
Punching at a mentally unstable guy who’s struggling with his health and personal life is not punching up either.
That’s just being an asshole.
Shittiness is not gendered. You can be a shitty man and you can be a shitty woman but the only person of any persuasion being shit here is you.
Punching up is not fine. Its a cope phrase people use to glaze over their shitty behaviour.
“Up” is so vague it can be anything.n
i dont think a mentally unstable person with deep personal issues even qualifies as “up”.
unless hes a deranged man that aggressively takes it out on everyone else or something, but we can’t really tell from a handful of lines of a possibly fake story.
Well the above poster seems to be making the argument that its ok because hes a man and that overrides his mental illness. The point of my comment is that you dont get to “punch” just because someone is perceived to be above you in some random hierarchy.
:(
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