I dunno, I think it’s asking a lot of drunk guys playing videogames to suddenly snap in to support mode on the spot like that. Even sober if someone just snapped and started ranting about something that personal with no context and nobody knew before I can’t say that I’d be able to respond in a perfectly supportive manner.
At least in this totally real situation they had one friend (OOP) that was able to give some slight form of acknowledgement, even if it wasn’t particularly emotionally comforting.
I think the current mind state of the group is more important than sobriety or gender (though both of those probably play a role). At least for me, I can have a hard time immediately switching gears socially, that coupled with the shock of having someone start ranting about something I had no idea of, would be hard to be a total role model. I’d probably end up doing something similar to OOP, I definitely wouldn’t awkwardly leave because I’d feel too bad, I’d probably ask if they’d talked to anyone or seen a doctor but if the other guy was also super drunk and ranting I don’t know how long I’d be able to stick around
It is such a clear sign of differences in socialization, because you will never find a more supportive group than a bunch of drunk female friends (in my experience). Really sad to see the lack of men supporting men, but hopefully it’s getting better as the years go on.
Extremely sorry to hear you’re having a tough time. I’m not a guy, so I cannot speak from direct experience, but just judging from my male friends it seems like the “find a social hobby” advice really works. I know you didn’t ask for advice, but I really don’t have much else to offer other than my sympathy. I hope things get better for you (and everyone tbh).
I dunno, I think it’s asking a lot of drunk guys playing videogames to suddenly snap in to support mode on the spot like that. Even sober if someone just snapped and started ranting about something that personal with no context and nobody knew before I can’t say that I’d be able to respond in a perfectly supportive manner.
At least in this totally real situation they had one friend (OOP) that was able to give some slight form of acknowledgement, even if it wasn’t particularly emotionally comforting.
I dunno my friends are pretty solid with emotional support when drunk or sober its not that complicated
I think the current mind state of the group is more important than sobriety or gender (though both of those probably play a role). At least for me, I can have a hard time immediately switching gears socially, that coupled with the shock of having someone start ranting about something I had no idea of, would be hard to be a total role model. I’d probably end up doing something similar to OOP, I definitely wouldn’t awkwardly leave because I’d feel too bad, I’d probably ask if they’d talked to anyone or seen a doctor but if the other guy was also super drunk and ranting I don’t know how long I’d be able to stick around
I mean, drunk d&ms are absolutely a staple, but they kinda migrate organically, not dropped in the middle of other activities
Well, it’s better than nothing. I’m glad to hear there’s more people with compassion and empathy
It is such a clear sign of differences in socialization, because you will never find a more supportive group than a bunch of drunk female friends (in my experience). Really sad to see the lack of men supporting men, but hopefully it’s getting better as the years go on.
It doesn’t seem to be getting better, at least not for me and in the wider USA. It can be really tough having no friend group and going it alone.
Extremely sorry to hear you’re having a tough time. I’m not a guy, so I cannot speak from direct experience, but just judging from my male friends it seems like the “find a social hobby” advice really works. I know you didn’t ask for advice, but I really don’t have much else to offer other than my sympathy. I hope things get better for you (and everyone tbh).