Im as kink friendly as it gets. But scat is off the menu, period.

There’s plenty of stuff that I don’t or won’t participate in as a receiver, like sounding as an example, but it doesn’t bother me at all to see. But if there’s scat play going on, I’m out. Don’t want to even see it, much less smell it or hear it.

My own kinks run towards bdsm. Predominantly dominance play, bondage, and pain. I’m dominant, and being tied up isn’t interesting to me, but I enjoy pain for myself, though not all types in all situations.

My preference is for gentle domination rather than aggressive or demeaning, though I can do that. I just really enjoy the process of taking a partner deeper into the sensation of giving up control, sinking into the pleasure of pain. To me, the most fun way of getting there is slow, gradual, and in a way that’s more a seduction into the darkness than a push. Even using floggers and whips, I like to build up, layer sensations and types of pain until the sub gets pulled under by their own mind rather than being overwhelmed from the outside.

If that’s done while the sub is tied up, be it as simple as wrist cuffs, or as complex as a suspension, all the better. I like them knowing they could be free, if they asked for it, and getting right to the edge where they might safe word out, but don’t want to because there’s still more to experience.

But, when I’m in the mood to receive sensation, take pain, part of my enjoyment is in not needing the restraint. It’s pushing myself to my own boundaries that does it for me. I want something I can grab to keep myself stable, but that I can’t rely on keeping me upright. If I fall, I want to fall, not just hang there, if that makes sense.

I prefer to top women, but have topped men as well. It’s less sexual with men, since I’m not attracted to them, but when the sub needs some degree of sexual activity, I can manage to do it. I can usually rely on the dominance play to give enough arousal to give them what they need, if they do need it to be sexual. A few times, back in my younger days when I was still active in the local scene, I needed a woman partner involved if a man wanted some kind of sexual interaction as part of the scene, and I definitely performed better with a woman involved.

To me, there wasn’t much difference in my own enjoyment between topping a man my way, and topping a woman that preferred very hard methods, or wanted a fast ramp up in force. Sure, I didn’t and don’t enjoy men, and I do enjoy women, but my preference for my style of dominance and pain is more enjoyable than other ways of doing things. It’s one of those “at least I’m playing at all” kind of things.

And I definitely enjoy pleasing someone that’s a long term partner any way they need. But when you’re playing with people at a party or small gathering, it isn’t always going to be your actual partner, and it’s still fun to play when single, so applying sometimes you work outside your preferences

Me and my wife play together, but we stay monogamous unless it’s a very special occasion.