Hey all, I’m (32M) planning a trip with my wife (30F) next week and I was thinking of bringing something spicy along as a gift.
I’ve been looking into adult games for couples, but I’m a bit on the fence. I’ve read reviews of a specific one and lots of folks seem to enjoy them a lot. However, the more negative reviews focus on some of the questions and assignments and I’m not sure if it’s for us.
For instance, I see there are some knowledge questions that will just test what you know about certain topics. Others have said you can go from 0-100 really quick and that sexual assignments are timed with an hourglass which may make it kinda rushed.
What I’m hoping to accomplish is for us to reconnect on a physical level. Our sex life is okay, but it’s nothing spectacular. I’m interested to see if maybe we can reach a new level through something like this.
As an alternative, I’ve also seen a game where you can do the assignment on the card or drink if you don’t want to do that, that kinda seems more our speed. Yet I am kinda on the fence because I expect the quality of the cards to be pretty low, in the sense that they’ll go for cheap thrills or things that are more awkward than sexy.
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It seems like getting suggestions from a deck of cards may not address the underlying issues…
You write that you want to reconnect on a physical level. So take that physical desire and express it on her body with love, no props needed
I think the value of games like this lies in a bit of randomness besides its premise that it’ll ask questions of things that remain unspoken.
Like I said, our sex life is basically okay, but we don’t do assessments of the sessions or anything. Of course, I can do whatever I like within certain boundaries that I am aware of. But I feel like there is something more to be had if we both opened up a bit more. It’s not really in our nature to discuss those things.
To be clear: I don’t really know what we might gain from something like this. That’s why I’m asking if folks have any experience with it.
Most cheap, run of the mill, sex games aren’t really going to push any boundaries. It’s going to be a slightly different flavor of what you already know and it probably won’t push you outside of your comfort zones.
But I feel like there is something more to be had if we both opened up a bit more. It’s not really in our nature to discuss those things.
It might not be what you want to hear but, especially in longer relationships, healthy physical intimacy stems from emotional intimacy. If you want to have better and more open sex then you need to learn how to overcome your nature and have these discussions without the gimmicks. If you’ve got a conservative sex life then playing games may give you a little insight about what direction you may want to explore but they certainly aren’t going to break down any walls and you’ll still need to learn to put in the work and communicate in order to reap any actual benefits.
It’s not so much that the type of game you’re looking for aren’t or can’t be fun. They can be for sure. You just can’t expect them to give you anything you aren’t already bringing to the table.
You may not mean the same thing it seems like you’re saying, but presenting something like that more casually , as in “hey, I picked these up for a little extra fun along with the trip” rather than “I got this for you/us to shake things up” is likely to be received better. I’m struggling to phrase this in a clear way, so please bear with me. But the idea is that you don’t take a vacation and then indirectly imply that you aren’t satisfied with your sex life.
It’s fine not to be satisfied! It’s great to communicate about it. But waiting until a vacation and dropping that kind of issue on a partner isn’t usually going to lead to something pleasant. It’s already a thorny issue to talk about.
So, if you think a game will be a fun thing to do while in the hotel room or whatever, that’s great. But if you try and treat it as more than that, I’m worried it won’t end well.
Am I making sense? It’s a really minor difference, and it’s hard to express for some reason.
I think what I’m getting at is that a game is just an “icebreaker”. The spiciness has to already be there, or any game will flop. It’s a prop, a tool, not a solution.
Also better to discuss this beforehand with your partner. Then you can both look forward to it instead of it being a surprise.
Hi, we had some experiences with sex board games, however we often found them limited, as you can only discover the finite amount of cards once. However, we found our satisfaction in electronic based ones, as they often allow much more personalisation and randomness. We used loveretto.com a lot, then switched to jeu.sexy-city.fr/?lang=en as we found it more costumisable. We also sometimes use theforeplaygame.com though a bit less often. Finally, we recently discovered domination-dares.com and we’ll probably test it sometime soon.
We hope this helps you, but as the others say, you need to discuss and communicate with your partners to understand each other’s expectations and boundaries. We often think we know, but never ask often enough
