• Tot@lemmy.worldM
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    16 hours ago

    I like to tell my husband about various things our daughter does when I know she’s probably listening. “She helped me with dishes, I didn’t even ask. She just came over and said she wanted to help, so when I asked her to dry a pile of bowls, she didn’t even hesitate. She was so careful and gentle and so thorough.”

    • TeraByteMarx@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      15 hours ago

      Not parent, just dysfunctional child of parent.

      This would wreck my brain a bit trying to play a role that’s seemingly immensely important to my parents.

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        4 hours ago

        For sure. I told her that she didn’t have to, it’s not her job or chore. She’s 4, for context. I just want her to pick up her toys at the end of the day 😭

        Mostly though, I want her to know that I appreciate her, and that I notice the little things.

        What do you think would have been helpful for you growing up?

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    15 hours ago

    You know, i cant recall my parents ever talkin shit. Maybe its just because im oblivious most of the time. My peers on the other hand…

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    2 days ago

    I read once that kids believe things they overhear more than the things that they are directly told and have been trying to do this ever since.

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    2 days ago

    This happened to me… nothing destroys self esteem like parents bad mouthing you for stuff you thought was cool