Say no more, my friend. I’m the same xD I have some messages I need to reply to that I just can’t and sometimes it takes days to answer, other times months (embarrassing) and yet other times I can reply immediately. So I completely get it haha.
Aw man, I’m sorry to hear that! It really is a hit or miss when it comes to people’s experiences getting diagnosed. I have also met people where it was relatively easy for them to get through the eye of the needle and I’m low key envious of them haha.
There probably is something to it if both your sibs have it as well! And yeah, when I was a kid, ADHD basically didn’t exist and was called something else (DAMP) and it was only a diagnosis given to very disruptive boys. I think the first time I head about ADHD was when I wad like 19 or 20 and back then the understanding of it was that it’s what happens when rowdy boys get too much sugar so they need medicine to make them quiet.
I didn’t really know about how ADHD typically presents in women and girls until a year and a half ago when my spouse told me that he thinks I have it, so yeah.
In that sense I really feel you with having been too old to be caught early and taken seriously and such.
I hope that, if you seek a diagnosis again, you will have better luck with the professionals assessing you. I have heard that there are good and kind people out there who want to help, so if one has the energy, time and money to look for a good egg, then it is probably worth it for peace of mind!
Have also heard about the whole meds thing that that is why they don’t want to diagnose adults. The few times I have talked with people about it irl they also immediately bring up the meds as if that is my motivation, but it really isn’t. Don’t get me wrong, if it turned out that there was a pill that could help me with some of my issues, I would most likely want to take it, but for me, the main motivation was always to have proof that I’m not just making things up. That I’m not crazy or making excuses. Its always been an issue of mine that I feel like I have to justify my feelings and experiences and I automatically assume no one ever believes me, so having paper proof that it is real is something I really wanted.
And people always go “then what next?” And I’m always like: then I’ll go back to my life? What else?
People always thinks it’s the meds, but for me at least it’s the peace of mind.
Haha if it gets past a week or two I consider it a lost cause and would be weird to reply that late, doesn’t stop it from popping into my head from time to time though.
I too have a few friends where it was a super painless experience and the almost jealousy is real!
On the history, yeah exactly, ironically I thought back to when I was real young and in 2nd grade they had me in a “special class” so I wouldn’t disrupt the other students, probably should have been a sign but eh. Once I became more self aware I worked to keep myself from expressing my inner thoughts as frequently, which kinda sucks but it’s also fair lol.
I didn’t know it presented differently in men and women honestly, I should do more research on that!
At this point unless it benefited my life in some way to have an official diagnosis (like meds) I don’t really see why I would go through all the effort and money to seek professional help. It doesn’t help that I picked up thc as a self medication tool and most docs would then just assume the issues are due to that. Can’t really explain to them in a state where that’s illegal lol.
I have taken several different types of meds for adhd (from my siblings prescriptions) and it truly is transformational on my ability to focus and keep that focus for a long period of time, even if I get off-track it’s much easier to get back in that prior state of mind. I don’t love the idea of having to take a pill every day, but I also feel like I’m not living up to my actual potential as I am now.
I do see the point of having proof though, not just “too lazy” or “forgetful” a legit medical condition. Even then though, so many people have no understanding of what it’s like and the implications it has on so many minute things in life.
I hadn’t heard of DAMP but seems like it was more a thing in Sweden and Denmark then in the USA.
Say no more, my friend. I’m the same xD I have some messages I need to reply to that I just can’t and sometimes it takes days to answer, other times months (embarrassing) and yet other times I can reply immediately. So I completely get it haha.
Aw man, I’m sorry to hear that! It really is a hit or miss when it comes to people’s experiences getting diagnosed. I have also met people where it was relatively easy for them to get through the eye of the needle and I’m low key envious of them haha.
There probably is something to it if both your sibs have it as well! And yeah, when I was a kid, ADHD basically didn’t exist and was called something else (DAMP) and it was only a diagnosis given to very disruptive boys. I think the first time I head about ADHD was when I wad like 19 or 20 and back then the understanding of it was that it’s what happens when rowdy boys get too much sugar so they need medicine to make them quiet.
I didn’t really know about how ADHD typically presents in women and girls until a year and a half ago when my spouse told me that he thinks I have it, so yeah.
In that sense I really feel you with having been too old to be caught early and taken seriously and such.
I hope that, if you seek a diagnosis again, you will have better luck with the professionals assessing you. I have heard that there are good and kind people out there who want to help, so if one has the energy, time and money to look for a good egg, then it is probably worth it for peace of mind!
Have also heard about the whole meds thing that that is why they don’t want to diagnose adults. The few times I have talked with people about it irl they also immediately bring up the meds as if that is my motivation, but it really isn’t. Don’t get me wrong, if it turned out that there was a pill that could help me with some of my issues, I would most likely want to take it, but for me, the main motivation was always to have proof that I’m not just making things up. That I’m not crazy or making excuses. Its always been an issue of mine that I feel like I have to justify my feelings and experiences and I automatically assume no one ever believes me, so having paper proof that it is real is something I really wanted.
And people always go “then what next?” And I’m always like: then I’ll go back to my life? What else?
People always thinks it’s the meds, but for me at least it’s the peace of mind.
Haha if it gets past a week or two I consider it a lost cause and would be weird to reply that late, doesn’t stop it from popping into my head from time to time though.
I too have a few friends where it was a super painless experience and the almost jealousy is real!
On the history, yeah exactly, ironically I thought back to when I was real young and in 2nd grade they had me in a “special class” so I wouldn’t disrupt the other students, probably should have been a sign but eh. Once I became more self aware I worked to keep myself from expressing my inner thoughts as frequently, which kinda sucks but it’s also fair lol.
I didn’t know it presented differently in men and women honestly, I should do more research on that!
At this point unless it benefited my life in some way to have an official diagnosis (like meds) I don’t really see why I would go through all the effort and money to seek professional help. It doesn’t help that I picked up thc as a self medication tool and most docs would then just assume the issues are due to that. Can’t really explain to them in a state where that’s illegal lol.
I have taken several different types of meds for adhd (from my siblings prescriptions) and it truly is transformational on my ability to focus and keep that focus for a long period of time, even if I get off-track it’s much easier to get back in that prior state of mind. I don’t love the idea of having to take a pill every day, but I also feel like I’m not living up to my actual potential as I am now.
I do see the point of having proof though, not just “too lazy” or “forgetful” a legit medical condition. Even then though, so many people have no understanding of what it’s like and the implications it has on so many minute things in life.
I hadn’t heard of DAMP but seems like it was more a thing in Sweden and Denmark then in the USA.