How old is this cousin? Maybe they don’t know how to deal with difficult information yet

Clearly you don’t understand how slow things are in government. 6 months is a really fast turnaround for the government to get anything done.

Sticking your head in the sand is a great strategy for never helping to enact change. Knowledge is power, learn what you can.

Except they didn’t fix the root of the problem, they just kicked the can down the road and made big banks even bigger. Some bigger than the Treasury itself. They set up a bigger ticking time bomb for someone else to worry about when they’re gone.

There’s never a scenario on the internet where 99% of people agree with you…unless you’re just talking to yourself. Just let it go, not like you lose anything with downvotes.

It’s not a fact. You’re predicting events of the future that haven’t yet happened. I don’t care what you know about the legal system, you absolutely cannot call it fact.

You are not a supreme being with the power of knowing or influencing the future. That’s just nonsense.

Also I hope you’re right.

Well that’s a more specific situation. Personally I try to get things done ahead of time in group projects. That just feels respectful to the others. I can agree that it’s a bit selfish to wait until the last minute when others can’t get their stuff done until I do.

I just wanted to point out that procrastination shouldn’t be considered selfish. Different people have different working styles that work best for them. It’s a compromise to incorporate different working styles and the person who likes to do things right away and then relax should realize that there’s other styles and not everyone can operate the same way as them.

Woah woah woah… selfish behavior? What do you think you know about procrastinators?

I love that I procrastinate. It helps me to think about the issue/task for a longer period of time and allows for freedom to complete other tasks or relax instead of constantly stressing about getting things done immediately. I used to complete jobs right away and was rewarded with ever increasing workloads until I broke down from the amount of stress put on me daily. Procrastination isn’t something done to spite or hurt another person/entity…you have me a deadline and I completed it before it was due. Shouldn’t matter how I went about completing it.

Procrastinating has taught me how to work under intense pressure when it’s absolutely needed, and I can respond in the moment with confidence in my ability. It helps me to find time to be more connected with my coworkers without being overburdened with an ever-increasing workload. If I don’t take the time to be true to myself as a procrastinator, you will get less and less quality work out of me as my mental capacity becomes overloaded. It’s selfish to abuse those that want/need to take their time while still working under last minute pressure to get it done.

Not everything is so black and white just because it doesn’t fit with your style of working.

Just stare into her eyes and the answer will be revealed.

Calling people out on their BS is the right line to draw for me personally, but I still want that person to have the right to express their opinion. We just need to teach people that it’s ok to be wrong as long as you can admit it and learn from it. No idea gets processed until pushed from an opposing party.

Sitting back and doing nothing teaches nothing. Calling it appalling and informing the person why they’re wrong is the right step toward change. But if you can’t say it in a way that makes them hear you, then you’re doomed to have the argument all over again.

I’d say that’s part of the fun of it all! How boring would it be to just always succeed? And how much pressure has to continually grow to never make an error? Nah, I say let’s try things and fuck up…or succeed! And then run with it as far as it goes, fall down, and see if we can run farther next time.

The race may never end, but I still like running it!

I- I don’t really know, sorry.

II- Yeah I’m not really sure tbh.

III- The purpose of your life is up to you. You are part of something bigger and no matter what you end up doing, you have a place in this crazy universe. Nothing would exist without you and you wouldn’t exist without everything else. Your balance is the world’s balance, and you’ll feel your purpose when you realize your connection and influence on everything around you. Also… 42

Just out of curiosity, how old are you? I was also recently diagnosed with “other specific” ADHD essentially meaning I show signs and symptoms but not to a level of a full diagnosis. I’m 38 years old and have always wondered despite finding different ways to cope or just stressing through life.

I agree that it’s very validating to hear that some things are truly beyond your control. It can be so frustrating to internally want to complete a task, but externally get distracted by random things. The hard part is what to do about it now…I haven’t found medication that suits me, and I’ve managed well enough so far…but I’m still left wondering if there’s untapped potential in me if I could focus and stay on a single task instead of trying to tackle multiple tasks all at once.

That’s may be true for you, but a lot of these type sites are a great source for news and information about the world. Ignorance is bliss as they say, but the world keeps spinning whether or not you pay attention to it. I’m not saying you HAVE to get news from social media, but that’s what I primarily use it for.

And those owners can almost always find a compassionate ear from their loyal rich CEOs who don’t want to upset a however many years relationship of “I’ll scratch your back if you scratch mine” kinda thing.

Bet. Let’s see em! Common knowledge is often confused with common hearsay.

I know you’re not gonna get the sources because who has time for that? That’s actually more my point because it’s annoying seeing someone ask others for sources and then go on to make claims against others without sources of their own.

I’m sorry mister, “you got any sources for that?” guy, but I just gotta ask…

You got any sources for all this bullshit you’re spewing?

SOMETIMES IT’S GOOD TO CARE!

That’s the general gist

My only question is…how can I get in on that investment? I also think the stick market is going to crash but no clue how one goes about betting against it…

This is actually very interesting and gets at the heart of the problem in many different ways. Very true that there’s a money barrier that excludes some that might be most in need of services. There needs to be a more focused effort on providing assistance to those who need it at reduced rates or with additional insurance help.

But the bigger problem still remains with helping men (and women frankly, but moreso men) to understand what therapy/counseling is and is not. For years psychologists have been naming symptoms and diagnosing individuals with such and such disease or shortcoming on the part of the individual. Just like everything in the corporate world, they rely on statistics and numbers to come up with definitions for problems and for solutions.

I’m currently enrolled in a master’s program to obtain my licensing for professional counseling, and I can tell you that the attitude on that is finally starting to bend. I hear what you’re saying about not wanting therapy to simply be a self-affirmation circle-jerk because it doesn’t feel helpful to be told how wonderful you are by a person just to be knocked right back down again in a real-world experience.

But beneath even your resistance there’s still an admission that support can be helpful. In my personal opinion, I think counseling/therapy is a purposeful space to open up about experiences and feelings that you wouldn’t otherwise have an opportunity to express. Talking to yourself or talking to animals is helpful, but simply being able to unburden your thoughts to another human being that doesn’t know you and won’t judge you (or at least… they’re paid not to judge you) for your opinions or past mistakes can be a hugely beneficial step towards true healing.

Ultimately no counseling or therapy techniques can be effective until you decide they can be. It’s about helping to reframe your thoughts in ways you might not have considered, and it’s also meant to give you useful tools for coping with feelings both now and in the future. Successful counseling is one in which the client feels comfortable and confident about how to deal with the hardest parts of human existence.

More needs to be done to educate people about what they can expect from counseling so they can make their own decisions about whether or not it would be useful to them. Being able to word vomit my insecurities with a stranger for an hour is surprisingly uplifting and helps me clear my head towards whatever’s coming next.