• Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech
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    1 year ago

    NYC has always been open to everyone though, I’m not surprised. People from the aouth and Midwest go there and see New Yorkers as rude, when I’ve found new Yorkers to be the most welcoming

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        Completely agree. Rural people go to the city and perceive that as rude. No, it’s not rude, we just have more than 5000 in our cities, it’s ridiculous to stop and say hello to people. If you want to be kind, walk on the right, stand on the right of the escalators, and don’t stop in the middle of the sidewalk. Urban kindness is more or less just being aware that you aren’t the only person

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    The LGBT bar in my city was taken over by straight folks. The women left the normal bars because LGBT bars were safer, then the men followed them there. Last time I was at that place, a dude grabbed my chest clearly without consent. It just isnt worth it

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      And then they get angry when we tell them we don’t want them there. Like I’m all for women having a safe space, but that doesn’t mean ruining ours.

  • HeapOfDogs@beehaw.org
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    I watched this happen as a grew up. As a young man my city had at least 6-10 unique gay bars. This was a small city and each bar had a unique vibe. Different bars were more popular on certain days or even certain times of the day.

    Today 2 remain. One of the two has slowly gentrified and is barely a gay bar anymore.