For me there’s a bit of a network effect where the polycule sprawls out into the distance. Partners have partners who have partners.
But for disconnected folks, it’s mostly been tinder (yuck), and a local meetup.
(Also this might be the first post? That or nothing federated yet)
Mostly just in dating apps. Maybe it helps that in in a relatively large city, but Tindr and Grindr usually have plenty of other poly people. FEELD seems pretty feared towards polyamory.
FetLife.com there are poly meetups there on the events page.
Nothing federated, there was another post earlier today.
Hmm, any suggestions from the community would be most gratefully accepted. I’m seeing it on the home (kbin.run) instance.
Users can’t see any posts on communities that predate someone on their home instance subbing that community.
Hunh, well what shall I do about that? On testing I se that if I search !polyamory from another instance, which apparently has not subbed(?) the https://kbin.run/m/Polyamory/ community, the search yields null. If I search polyamory from that same instance, i.e. lemmy.ml, then I get a list of communities, including https://kbin.run/m/Polyamory/. I’m puzzled, and clearly uninformed about how to resolve this issue. My apologies in advance, as I’ve apparently ‘jumped into the deep end’ by starting this community, but haven’t the skills, nor even the knowledge of where to find the skills to resolve this issue. Halp, ples!
It’s not anything you did wrong, just the way federation works on lemmy.
So does that mean, eventually it will federate? That someone on a given instance just needs to sub this community, first to make that link of ‘federation’, and then it will proceed? If so pretty nifty, really.
I think it doesn’t even require someone subbing the community for federation to begin. Simply doing a search for @Polyamory@kbin.run on another instance is enough to federate with that instance, on Mbin instances at least. Their instance will be missing any existing posts you have, but will receive all new posts. Same goes for searching for other Fediverse users and their content.
Congrats! You did well starting a community on Mbin. Also, thank you for boosting my pretty niche post today. I was curious and browsed your profile a little bit and found your call for halp. Poly only works when everyone is open with each other and communicates these things.
I liked the title, so poetic by itself. I took a closer look at the image. Floating is lovely.
There are many ways, in my experience, for human relations to work, and the communication can come in many varied modes and media. It’s what fascinates me about our species, and the other species we surround ourselves with, the shear variety of communication.
Only new items will federate. This prevents instances from getting swamped with the entire history of a new muni every time. Not perfect, but it works well enough.
