I’m a long time Lemmy lurker and occasional Redditor. Since the Reddit influx, I’ve watched the frequency of shitty Reddit-type behavior, e.g., combative comments, trolling, and unnecessary rudeness, just sky rocket.

I’m happy to have more content on Lemmy, but I wish the bad actors and assholes would have stayed on Reddit.

Yes, I realize the irony of posting this on a new community that’s basically a Reddit transplant.

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    Idk why you’re swinging for low hanging fruit. Your 10 day old account speaks to a Reddit migrant as well.

    Ironic.

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      Honestly anyone with an account younger than lemmy.world I’d easily count as a reddit migrant.

      Of course, federation makes it hard to figure out exactly when they first created an account anywhere, especially since lemmy.world has only existed since like June 2.

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      I’m a long time Lemmy lurker and occasional Redditor

      Lurker isn’t the same as contributer, but I don’t think OP fully counts as a reddit migrant

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    I came over in the reddit migration.

    I have to admit, the thought definitely occurred to me when I first joined and had a look around, that the people that were already here before would be getting swarmed by masses of redditors that may well not have the same “site-culture” as the people who were here first. I’m actually surprised that this is the first post that I’ve seen complaining about it.

    I mean it, I was legitimately expecting a ton of pushback from the existing fedi community over this, and was really surprised when it never seemed to materialize.

    For my own experiences of being here (I’m on kbin), this place has been really good-natured, with a better level of well intentioned discussion than what a lot of reddit had, so it’s been a really nice experience so far. What I don’t have though, is any experience of what it was like before we all invaded en-mass, so I have nothing to contrast it with. I can totally see how someone wouldn’t be happy with what’s happened though, the migration has to have changed the space a lot for everyone that was here before.

    One thing about my personal experience of how it is here though is that when I first joined I tried to do the thing that you first do with a reddit account, you know, where you immediately un-subscribe from all default subreddits and only join things you’re actually interested in (so, niche subs, etc). Found out that it isn’t quite how it works, but that the subscribed feed is pretty much exactly that but baked-in as standard. I’ve then spent almost my whole time on the subscribed feed since (unless actively looking for new stuff).

    So the quality that I’ve experienced here is probably more down to my personal selection of subscribed communities rather than a more holistic view of the platform as a whole. There’s the caveat to everything I just said, I guess.

    So yeah, I’m kinda sorry that this happened to you, and I’d also prefer if those people (I’m referring to the bad-actors and arsehole’s side of things) would have just stayed where they were too, but I’m not sure what to do about it other than just blocking/unsubscribing to the communities in question, or blocking the individual accounts of bad actors. I doubt that the second is even remotely scalable though if the userbase gets significantly larger.

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      The lack of pushback was because lemmy hadn’t really formed its own discrete culture and community. There just weren’t enough people for that to happen. Lemmygrad is probably the only exception, as they formed a community and have been around for a while. And yea, they’re looking at the rest of lemmy as a kind of Reddit hellacape now. Literally they post memes about people just shutting all over the place. And, they’re not entirely wrong, as you hint at.

      It’s a little bit of a shame. As arguably it was necessary. But also, it’s arguably been too rushed. Building up communities and spaces is probably best down more slowly and organically. Lemmy probably went through two steps of growth in one short period. Mastodon by comparison had already had migration events prior to 2022 that had built up site-culture, though that has been somewhat overrun by some Twitter culture, but I think a cultural fusion is happening. Many parts of lemmy however are now basically subsets of Reddit culture. Not bad but not great.

      Interestingly, the dynamics between tech and culture are manifesting, where the tech and and interface differences between Reddit and Lemmy (eg no karma) are forcing cultural changes, as is the federation aspect.

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        lemmygrads problems with the fediverse are not with combative comments, trolling and unnecessary rudeness, they gleefully partake in each

        lemmygrads problems with the fediverse is liberals doing it too

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        I discovered Lemmy around 2019 or 2020 and loved the concept but was put off by the density of commies, so I didn’t create an account and participate but I would check the site around once a year to see if the community had taken off yet.

        2020: Is it the year of the Federated Reddit yet? Nope, still commies and dead threads.
        2021: Is it the year of the Federated Reddit yet? Nope, still commies and dead threads.
        2022: Is it the year of the Federated Reddit yet? Nope, still commies and dead threads.
        2023: Is it the year of the Federated Reddit yet?

        YES!

        And I am so glad to never have to see the depressing and miserable “culture” that was Lemmy from 2019 to mid-2023 again.

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      “I mean it, I was legitimately expecting a ton of pushback from the existing fedi community over this, and was really surprised when it never seemed to materialize.”

      I mean I joined pretty early, I think beehaw was topping the charts with 400, (4k?) Users. I’m pretty sure the complaints did happen but we’re pretty immediately drowned out

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    I disagree. I was here before the migration and I really wanted to like it. However, there simply wasnt enough content and most threads were barren. Now, there are full deep discussions everywhere about loads of different topics. I’ve come back to a far better product than I previously experienced, despite a few more bad actors.

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      Omg this!

      /s

      I haven’t noticed it too much but I feel like everyone is so used to how Reddit was that it would take some work and a collective agreement between users on the fediverse to shun the low quality comments.

      I do remeber that somewhat working on Reddit for a while, but yeah once it became big enough there was no stopping the shitty comments.

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        It sounds terrible but I hope the ux doesn’t improve, as it acts as a barrier to entry to a lot of the shit-tier Reddit users.

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          If you want to stop more people coming, just go and tell people on Reddit to come here.

          The trick though is that when you do, give them url’s for both Lemmy and Kbin. From what I saw, doing that somehow made understanding this place so difficult that 95% of people would just start shouting abuse at whoever did it and refuse to ever entertain the idea of switching. :p

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      I think this is a symptom of having a scoring system for comments. If you gamify your social interactions, people will try to play the game (meaning low quality comments, dad jokes, or anything that will grant them easy votes) instead of having actual discourse.

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        That ignores the effect of bad actors who will do it regardless though. There may actually be something to using such a score, at least as a qualitative if not quantitative measurement of trustworthiness, like for anyone with a magazine-specific karma score in the negative and spread out over at least ten comments, start hiding their comments by default (like still visible but you have to click to expand now), and allow the mods to decide what their communities rules will be.

        Irl it’s like: punch me in the face once, twice, three times, and eventually ten times, and maybe one day I’ll finally start to think about considering making a plan of action to help you realize that there may be consequences… one day! (maybe) That could help so that if a troll is popular in one place but always shits outside of where they live, those receiving the raw end of that deal could have a way to automatically deal with it?

        On second thought though, it’s probably too easily gamified, especially by alts created for explicitly that purpose, like it’s not that hard to make 10 accounts. But aside from minor UI concerns, something like that could actually change whether/how often someone feels welcomed to go visit a site.

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        Even back in the old forum days, we had replies akin to “yes, this!” “agreed!” “no” that don’t contribute much to the discussion.

        So I don’t think it’s the scoring system that is at fault, but rather it’s just human nature. Sometimes people simply want to be a part of something, and those meaningless phrases help to accomplish that.

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          Oh, definitely. However I’m not so sure that these are the low quality comments they’re talking about. I believe it’s the ones that are being posted just to get that quick upvote in order to feel more validated.

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      I came across one earlier that was about as low quality as it gets. It was a thread about some big car accident and the only reply was “/c/fuckcars”. No commentary on the actual article, no attempt at starting any actual discussion, just a pithy one liner that serves no purpose other than grabbing some upvotes and killing any chance of discussion. I still haven’t seen TOO much of that yet but I find it weird that someone would make the effort to come to the fedi just to do the same low effort shit they were doing on Reddit. It’s disappointing but at the same time, my short time on the fedi has been filled with far more actual conversation than most of my time on Reddit was.

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      Sometimes you want to support a post or comment but have nothing to say. Comments increase engagement scores on most platforms

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        In my experience the only ones caring about engagement scores are advertisers. If you agree with a post/comment you don’t actually have to press any button (upvote, like, heart, etc) or even reply to it. We’ve been conditioned to do it because they have found a way to profit off of our “uh huh” and “yeah that’s right”. I’m not suggesting it’s all bad, I’m trying to put it into context.

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          Sure and it might not be a thing here in Lemmy but there’s a lot of users conditioned to behave this way

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    It’s not reddit, it’s body count. I used bbs’s in the late 70s, fidonet in the 80s/90s, internet when gopher was new, and it’s all sweetness and love when the crowd is small and gets “worse” when more people show up.

    That’s in quotes because it’s not worse, it’s more. Aside from trolls who require the anonymity etc, assholes are just people you don’t like. Their friends like them.

    It’s why scaling is so important and to have tools to keep communities small and manageable.

    Facebook’s moderating one billion people is a stupid made up problem that will be solved by it dying of bloat.

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      This 100%. I have read forums from back the 2000s and people still flame as if it was a Reddit thread, thrilling.

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      You’re absolutely right. Reddit was the source, but it really could have been people from anywhere.

      I do wonder if Reddit’s culture does affect the attitudes of those coming over, though. One thing I saw all the time on Reddit was the unhelpful critic: the guy who was more than happy to tell you you’re wrong, whether or it not doing so is warranted, contextually inappropriate, or even makes sense, and only that you’re wrong - they add nothing else to the conversation. I’ve had a TON of those recently; there’s even one in this thread. I used to see them here every so often but never like this.

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    It was necessary, unfortunately. Unless you just wanted Lemmy to stay this quaint little corner instead of being a significant player in helping the Fediverse reach its real potential out there.

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    Seeing as your account is the same age as mine, it seems you’re a reddit refugee as well.

    All we can do is behave well and try not to be a jerk. And not try and invite the same type of reddit behavior to lemmy.

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    Unfortunately I think this just reflects human nature. The more people you have the more people you have at the fringes who are aggressive, or trolling or even just selfish or insensitive.

    Also it’s easy to come across rude when posting in text - anyone who works with colleagues via email will find the same problem of one meaning being intended but a different meanong (such as tone) being read by the recipient.

    When you have a small community your names become familiar and there is something personal about the interactions. Once the you have a huge community people become anonymous and that allows bad behaviour to flourish. I barely ever saw a name twice on reddit and that’s happening here too. I got to the point on reddit where I’d post a comment but I wouldn’t ever read the replies as I was fed up with dealing with the negativity.

    My hope for the fediverse is that there will be multiple versions of the same communities so that we can have closer knit versions of communities as alternatives to the 1m+ chaotic versions. Small communities are where you can achieve decency and kindness more consistently.

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      Also I assume that unfriendly behavior, and atmosphere it creates, discourage unaggressive or less typical posters from participating in conversations. So those insensitive people will end up being overpresented in the comment section.

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    That is expected isn’t it? Both sites are driven by people, and people can be an assholes. Doubt we can do too much to drive them out.

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    I suspect part of it may be due to the type of content we’re seeing. It feels like low-effort meme and shitpost communities are dominating the feeds, and that’s going to attract a certain low-effort audience. I’ve been blocking them liberally but they just keep coming.

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    It’s not reddit’s people in my mind. It’s how the society is structured in general. The fediverse gets slowly adopted by more and more people so it’s natural that there is a annoying group of idiots.

    I think they are always everywhere in a percentage. So the bigger the group the more Idiots.

    It’s possible that this percentage is increasing to be fair.

    And yes, I’m a disgusting reddit refugee.

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    The best thing about decentralized networks is that you can just go to another instance if you feel like this. You’re not forced to interact with any communities that you’re not a fan of. Things change with time, of course, but that doesn’t mean you have to change your tastes.

  • The thing with the combative comments/rudeness, in my experience, mostly looks like someone being direct and then a bunch of readers being offended by the bluntness. Whether it was on Reddit, here, or forums and Usenet back in the day. So many problems with “tone” in text is caused simply by the reader reading it in a combative tone that the writer never intended.

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      Add to that a large part of the Internet (Americans I can only presume) are the biggest moral prudes around.

      Like they’ll see someone say fuck in a conversation and be like “guys that’s totally uncalled for, let’s be civil here” when really it’s just a bit of fucking emphasis behind a word and causal as fuck.

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        Non-prude American here. My hypothesis is that younger-ish folks are raised paranoid of their every word being recorded and played back to their parents. There’s a weird tone to the under 25s that feels like every word had to go through legal.

        Perfect example: Oh my gosh!

        Who the fuck says, “Gosh?” I think I might have heard 1 grandparent say it back in the early 90s. It’s, “Oh my god!” There’s punctuation to the word. Gosh sounds like you’re trying to whisper so your clergy doesn’t hear you being naughty.

        So, yeah, we hate those fucking cunts, too.

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        Rather than labeling an entire nation as “moral prudes”, it’s important to recognize that different cultures have different standards of civility. I know many Commonwealth nations consider words like “fuck” and “cunt” to be simply everyday ordinary language, but in the United States, one is considered very low-brow and crude, while the other is very nearly the most offensive word in our vocabulary.

        Different cultures, different standards.

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          Difference is the US is the default and their views are imposed on everyone else.

          You don’t ask the minority to be more respectful of the majority at their own expense.

          Also very clearly said a large portion of Internet users who are American are moral prudes, not all Americans. But hey gotta be offended somehow.

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          I would almost ignore the profanity aspect, because that’s one of the easiest to learn about and laugh at together, and lean into the fact that some cultures don’t engage with sarcasm the same way as others. Or that some cultures (and sub-cultures) make heavy use of mockery and teasing in ways that are confusing to others.

          There are many circumstances where it can be difficult to tell the difference between a joke and a jab in a cross-culture conversation. And that’s not even getting into language and slang barriers.

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      Putting that entirely on the reader is unfair. The author of a comment or post has some level of responsibility to manage their side of the communication as well.

      There’s a reason that, as a species, one of the first things we invented after digital communications was emoticons and eventually shorthand terms to convey emotions (lol, lmao, wtf).

      Body language, audible tone, syllable emphasis, or the rest of the damn near endless list of minor things we use to communicate, we needed to make sure we could avoid being accidentally combative by default.

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      I’m not so sure about that sometimes. It’s definitely true, but many people are bad at inferring tone in text because they have no ability to read between the lines. And I’ve noticed trendy little catchphrases or code words have caught on in Reddit and Twitter. People love to throw around the words “gross,” “yikes,” and “disgusting” when talking about something they find slightly morally questionable. They’ll punctuate a sentence with “full stop” when they want to decisively shut down an argument. Things like the cry-laugh emoji and the clapping hands after every word (I’m on my laptop right now, sorry I didn’t just type the emojis). These things are meant to illicit an exact emotional response, and you almost never run into people speaking so boldly in real life. People have become such caricatures online that it’s insufferable to even try to have a real conversation.

      Reddit is definitely full of shitheads who seem to get all their emotional discharge out of the way online. Personally, I haven’t really noticed it here anywhere near the level of Reddit. Even the act of downvoting a comment seems nearly unheard of from what I’ve observed.

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      So often when I get into a conversation about veganism it ends with the other person saying I’ve been an asshole when I’ve just been direct and honest… :(