As the male social circle continues to shrink, their partners have to take on much more emotional labour – and many are opting to spend their lives alone instead
I guess I should have specified the difference between “emotionally dumping” and just needing support. I was mostly speaking from experience because I used to be the kind of person that would emotionally dump on the woman I was with. I was too afraid to speak about anything to my guy friends but for some reason thought it was totally okay to share literally everything with the women I was with. I think it came from a pre-conceived notion that women are more emotional and therefore have more experience in dealing with emotions. Took me a long time of being single to realize I was just using it as an excuse to not face my issues. Not only that, but it helped me realize that men and women are way more alike than they are different. And I realised that the difference in emotions between men and women is more of a societal issue, and that women were actually just more emotionally intelligent vs being more emotional.
I went ahead and updated my comment above to add a little bit more about this for those that come after.
What’s the line on “emotionally dumping” though?
I think for a lot of people men needing support at all is thought of as emotionally dumping (and we all need emptional support sometimes).
I do agree with you, I just worry about what is that line, and how is that seen in today’s throwaway society.
I guess I should have specified the difference between “emotionally dumping” and just needing support. I was mostly speaking from experience because I used to be the kind of person that would emotionally dump on the woman I was with. I was too afraid to speak about anything to my guy friends but for some reason thought it was totally okay to share literally everything with the women I was with. I think it came from a pre-conceived notion that women are more emotional and therefore have more experience in dealing with emotions. Took me a long time of being single to realize I was just using it as an excuse to not face my issues. Not only that, but it helped me realize that men and women are way more alike than they are different. And I realised that the difference in emotions between men and women is more of a societal issue, and that women were actually just more emotionally intelligent vs being more emotional.
I went ahead and updated my comment above to add a little bit more about this for those that come after.
I hope I didn’t come off as too harsh, sometimes I’m pessimistic.
Both your comments are really good and truthful.