• Dr. Bob@lemmy.ca
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    20 hours ago

    Great romance requires a choice. It’s difficult to find a choice that matters, ideally it is something they already have, but are giving up. That’s why all the hallmark movies work because a big city girl is giving up her career to grow cucumbers or something. Making a choice to take a job somewhere else doesn’t work because it’s a future thing - giving up an opportunity is not the same as giving up a realized life situation. Infidelity really works because it’s a former dream, and it means giving up stability, status, comfort for the unknown.

      • vaultdweller013@sh.itjust.works
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        15 hours ago

        It also doesn’t help that it has some heritage from courtly romance, if youve ever wondered why Guinevere and Lancelot have a thing going on in Arthurian mythology that’s why. The French were enamored with courtly romance and guess who helped forge modern romance.