I’m a gay trans man. I have a vagina, and I mostly do vaginal sex.
My relationships have been gay relationships, because we were both men and I am unambiguously read as male in public.
But I also do frequently have casual sex. There are a lot of gay men who do find relationships with trans men specifically to be erotic. There are bisexual men who don’t really care what they are topping. There are straight men who just want to fuck a vagina. There are insecure DL men who feel that a trans man is a safe outing.
Being attracted to a trans women as a straight guy is normal. You are expressing attraction to a woman. I’ve known trans women in relationships with 100% straight guys.
The larger reality here is that labels are shorthands, not laws. As a cis straight man, you have been told all of your life that anything outside of being attracted to a certain type of cis women is expected of you, that any non conformance with that script is “gay” and stigmatized.
You can have a sexual encounter or relationship with a trans woman and consider yourself 100% heterosexual if that’s important to you, because you are a man having sex with a woman. Hell - you can even experiment with a cis dude and consider yourself straight - there are piles and piles of dudes flipping through all kinds of apps right now just trying to get their dick sucked by any willing warm mouth.
Sexuality is spectrum and it changes across your life. You don’t have to feel worried about that, there’s nothing wrong with you.
I’m a gay trans man. I have a vagina, and I mostly do vaginal sex.
My relationships have been gay relationships, because we were both men and I am unambiguously read as male in public.
But I also do frequently have casual sex. There are a lot of gay men who do find relationships with trans men specifically to be erotic. There are bisexual men who don’t really care what they are topping. There are straight men who just want to fuck a vagina. There are insecure DL men who feel that a trans man is a safe outing.
Being attracted to a trans women as a straight guy is normal. You are expressing attraction to a woman. I’ve known trans women in relationships with 100% straight guys.
The larger reality here is that labels are shorthands, not laws. As a cis straight man, you have been told all of your life that anything outside of being attracted to a certain type of cis women is expected of you, that any non conformance with that script is “gay” and stigmatized.
You can have a sexual encounter or relationship with a trans woman and consider yourself 100% heterosexual if that’s important to you, because you are a man having sex with a woman. Hell - you can even experiment with a cis dude and consider yourself straight - there are piles and piles of dudes flipping through all kinds of apps right now just trying to get their dick sucked by any willing warm mouth.
Sexuality is spectrum and it changes across your life. You don’t have to feel worried about that, there’s nothing wrong with you.