Being real though, everyone I know that’s been with a trans woman has been just as happy as with a cis woman.
You being straight only comes into the issue if there’s a part of you that doesn’t consider trans and cis women as at least equivalent. And, truth is, if you don’t, then you shouldn’t try even hooking up with a trans woman because it’s disrespectful to fetishize someone while also rejecting the very thing you’re fetishizing. It just isn’t fair, it’s deceptive.
I think that you’d need to rectify the fact that trying to fit someone into your fantasy comes with a responsibility to be absolutely certain you give them the truth so they can give informed consent. It’s like kink stuff at that point, you don’t involve someone in your kink without them knowing and agreeing with what they’re getting into.
The fantasy you have isn’t about being with a person, it’s about being with an idea. That’s okay, that’s what fantasy is for. But if you’re going to try and bring a fellow human being into it, you have to treat them as a human first, period.
I’m not saying you wouldn’t, I’m just addressing what you asked here, where you may have been so focused on the question that you didn’t convey the more human side.
Now, having explored fantasies with people before, they don’t always work out. Some do, and that’s great. I think the key to making a good time happen is being open to it flopping. If you go into it with the awareness that reality is messy and chaotic, and that even if everyone involved has a good time, it still might not measure up to what’s in your head.
Like, when I was a teenager, I thought a three way would be fun. What they are is a lot of work for end results that aren’t better than just being with either person alone. Not for me anyway.
Same with some of the kinky stuff I thought I would like because I’d see pictures or read erotica including it, like bondage. But it didn’t really work irl. For me.
But I always encourage people to take a careful stock of their fantasy and see if it’s able to be reconciled with it not actually working out as a turnon in reality. If you can accept that, and that it might break the fantasy, then go for it.
Being real though, everyone I know that’s been with a trans woman has been just as happy as with a cis woman.
You being straight only comes into the issue if there’s a part of you that doesn’t consider trans and cis women as at least equivalent. And, truth is, if you don’t, then you shouldn’t try even hooking up with a trans woman because it’s disrespectful to fetishize someone while also rejecting the very thing you’re fetishizing. It just isn’t fair, it’s deceptive.
I think that you’d need to rectify the fact that trying to fit someone into your fantasy comes with a responsibility to be absolutely certain you give them the truth so they can give informed consent. It’s like kink stuff at that point, you don’t involve someone in your kink without them knowing and agreeing with what they’re getting into.
The fantasy you have isn’t about being with a person, it’s about being with an idea. That’s okay, that’s what fantasy is for. But if you’re going to try and bring a fellow human being into it, you have to treat them as a human first, period.
I’m not saying you wouldn’t, I’m just addressing what you asked here, where you may have been so focused on the question that you didn’t convey the more human side.
Now, having explored fantasies with people before, they don’t always work out. Some do, and that’s great. I think the key to making a good time happen is being open to it flopping. If you go into it with the awareness that reality is messy and chaotic, and that even if everyone involved has a good time, it still might not measure up to what’s in your head.
Like, when I was a teenager, I thought a three way would be fun. What they are is a lot of work for end results that aren’t better than just being with either person alone. Not for me anyway.
Same with some of the kinky stuff I thought I would like because I’d see pictures or read erotica including it, like bondage. But it didn’t really work irl. For me.
But I always encourage people to take a careful stock of their fantasy and see if it’s able to be reconciled with it not actually working out as a turnon in reality. If you can accept that, and that it might break the fantasy, then go for it.