Mine hit me with the “We’re spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”

  • eldoom@lemmy.ml
    783·
    3 dage siden

    Just sitting and having a casual lunch with my dad at work. Sack lunches that my mom had made us! When he nonchalantly tells me that women aren’t people and only exist for men’s enjoyment. I basically completely froze out of shock as he spends the next half hour trying to use excerpts from the Bible to prove his point.

    I haven’t had a conversation with him since and that was nearly 20 years ago. Also realized that Christianity is not something I want to be associated with.

    Funny thing is that he used to be adamant that god uses Parkinson’s to punish only the worst sinners and he’s got it now… Apparently there was some engine cleaning solvent my mom desperately tried to get him to stop using? The government banned it because it was giving people Parkinson’s so he stocked up on it to prove my mom wrong…

        • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz
          4·
          2 dage siden

          It’s okay.

          Really messed me up, tbh. Told that my purpose as a woman was to get married and “please my husband”, no matter what.

          As a teen, my desire to like boys never manifested. My youth pastor would preach about how women were princesses whose desire was to be saved by a knight, and men were knights seeking adventure. I always wanted the adventure, and I was completely ostracized for it.

          Imagine being told that your purpose is to be loved, then realizing that your true self is something nobody will ever love.

          It’s disturbing, and I was severely depressed throughout my entire young & teenage years.

          (it got much worse, but I don’t want to go over that. Just know that I escaped that shit eventually.)

          • Enkrod@feddit.org
            6·
            1 dag siden

            Thanks for letting us know that you escaped.

            And just so you know: I love my girlfriend, because she is the adventurer between us. She climbs mountains and explores exotic countries, she’s rugged and confident and the coolest person I know. She is my knight and although I’m no princess, she is very much loved for wanting adventure.

    • Muad'dib@sopuli.xyzEnglish
      18·
      2 dage siden

      Using the wrong engine cleaning solvent is a terrible sin and he’s being punished for his hubris

      • 1D10@lemmy.world
        246·
        3 dage siden

        Like he’ll it ain’t. Almost every Christian sect teaches that women are “less then” ,there may not be a direct quote in the book saying woman are not real people. But the teachings of the churches most definitely leans that way.

          • my_hat_stinks@programming.dev
            1·
            2 dage siden

            A sect is a sub-group of people unified by beliefs or practice, a denomination is essentially just a large named sect. Christianity is not monolithic and organises into groups, it by definition has sects.

            Even if you were right it’s such a ridiculously pointless and pedantic argument, it does nothing to further the conversation. You’re just trying to use cheap gotchas as a thought-terminating cliche. The only thing you’ve done is to force us to literally argue semantics, that is not a good look for you.

            For completeness, here’s a Christian source using the word sect to describe Christian groups, one of the top search engine hits when I searched.