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Tweet saying: My bf was slow cooking ribs and I guess they were done in the middle of the night. So this man wakes me up at 3 am and goes “here babe, i brought you a rib.” So we sat in bed and ate ribs. I’ve found my soulmate.

  • Jerkface (any/all)@lemmy.ca
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    9 days ago

    Needless cruelty and violence against vulnerable individuals is not wholesome unless you just block that shit out of your head so you can keep doing it.

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      9 days ago

      Man. Every time I read an unsolicited comment like this, I get moved a bit more to the “optics matter” camp.

      If someone is interested, they will ask. And if they ask, you get to camly explain your thoughts and feelings.

      That’s how I managed to get everyone to think of the “haha, my food eats your food” guy in my social circle as the weird “berates people for their personal choices” guy, rather than me. He brought it up in the most childish, naive way, and I got to be the adult in the room.

      And that stuck. A bunch of my friends lost their fear of meat alternatives, because of me wordlessly picking the meat alternative from the fridge in the grocery store, while picking things out for the BBQ. People do notice these things. And some will copy you, if you seem cool enough to copy.

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        9 days ago

        This is exactly my issue with online activists, especially. Nobody has ever changed their mind because they were called names or moralized for their behavior - it usually just pushes them in the opposite direction. It doesn’t matter whether someone is morally on the right side of history; if they’re being a jerkface about it, I’d argue they’re doing more harm than good. A regular omnivore is less harmful, in my view, than an omnivore who actively hates vegans.

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        9 days ago

        I initially didn’t even notice that he was referring to eating meat and was just thinking what is this guy talking about

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        9 days ago

        Got it, step one become cool enough to copy!

        Speaking of skill issues lol (for me)

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        9 days ago

        If they have a lot of fibre from vegetables, and fruit, they could be constipated and thus a part-time pooper.