• Coelacanth@feddit.nu
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    11 days ago

    Tired, anxious, depressed, feel like shit in general. Declined an invitation to play boardgames with some old friends this weekend because I feel tired and anxious and depressed and overwhelmed and now I have more anxiety and guilt because I feel like I should have gone and I will further lose contact with them over this and they will hate me now.

    • Lady Butterfly @lazysoci.alOP
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      11 days ago

      It gets like that sometimes and it’s so hard. Dragging yourself through life is exhausting, and it means we don’t have energy for seeing friends. Cancelling plans comes with it’s own problems though, that sets off all sorts of thoughts. How are you trying to manage it today?

    • alanjaow@lemmy.world
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      11 days ago

      Speaking as someone with anxiety, try not to predict what others feel. You’re likely going to be wrong, and never in a good way. It’s not your responsibility to guess what others are feeling, it’s their responsibility to tell you. Always assume the most neutral opinion from others, and only change that if they say otherwise.

      If you need to stay alone to recuperate, then go all-in on it. Let your friends know that you had a bout of anxiety. If you’re worried about them being upset, then not giving them a reason won’t help that.

      I wish you the best, and please ask if you have any questions that I might be able to help with.