Whenever I ask someone out I make sure to explicitly use the word date. I don’t know how people fuck that up so often. The bad feels of uncertainty over many hours (or days) are so much worse than the brief stress of just asking.
I have done so sometimes. Like I met a guy friend of mine at a party and I made sure to clarify I don’t date men when pitching we should get drinks sometime since we’re basically neighbors.
But I also don’t think I often ask people to do one on one things outside of dating or established friendships.
Whenever I ask someone out I make sure to explicitly use the word date. I don’t know how people fuck that up so often. The bad feels of uncertainty over many hours (or days) are so much worse than the brief stress of just asking.
So if you just want to ask them out to get to know them without any romantic intentions, do you specify it’s not a date too?
Yes but subtly. “Friend-date”, “My friend and i”, “I’ve been enjoying hanging out together, i’m glad we’ve become friends”.
Sometimes you do actually have to spell out that you aren’t interested romantically.
My girlfriend tells me that sometimes.
I don’t have a girlfriend, but I know a woman who would be mad at me for saying that
RIP, Mitch
I have done so sometimes. Like I met a guy friend of mine at a party and I made sure to clarify I don’t date men when pitching we should get drinks sometime since we’re basically neighbors.
But I also don’t think I often ask people to do one on one things outside of dating or established friendships.