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Cake day: June 3rd, 2023

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  • Didn’t try, but could work

    I had some very good experience with lady bugs against aphids. So I was looking for something like that and found a “caterpillar fly” (direct translation, not sure if this is correct. Scientific name: Trichopoda pictipennis)

    Maybe I could set them out in my balcony garden. But as it’s not a real garden, but only a few larger flower boxes, I’m afraid they won’t make it long with an active infestation.

    But I also haven’t found a shop for them yet and don’t know, if they can be applied like lady bugs.
    Can’t stress enough how well that worked against aphids - and I really like them :⁠-⁠)
    With a little “bug hotel” they also came back and tried to settle. But sadly our apartment block had the balconies renovated and I needed to move the hotel and now need to start fresh…


  • Thanks!
    Checked them already after skull givers answer, but haven’t found anything - maybe they already all hatched now…

    This season is already fucked and gone. So I’m currently looking into ways to prevent this next year.

    I’ve read that spraying peppermint helps to keep them away. But we got a bit really wanted mint plant this year, which sits just 25-50cm away from the tomatoes.
    Either it’s a different mint and only peppermint works, or the plant alone just isn’t enough…



  • Ah, I think you’re right!
    We are having an infestation this year of those fuckers, but I’ve only seen the adult ones until now.

    Thank you very much!
    Those have become a pest here.

    If someone knows how to keep them away, it would be very much appreciated.

    Edit: the only thing I’ve found was manual removing them or spraying them with vinegar and soap water. I’ve now freed my 3 poor plants of them manually (into a bag with vinegar, soap and hot water)
    At least now I know, why all our tomatoes this year started to rot with some mold infection



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    Yeah, I’m trying.

    But I’m fighting for the life of my cat and I’m cooking food for him every 2 hours - since 2 months.

    Me and and my wife are already completely devastated, because we also need to somehow work…

    So getting some real sleep wasn’t an option for quite some time.

    At the moment he is doing better, and I’m trying to get the portions a bit bigger and the times between feeding larger. But it will probably be a process.

    And as this has taken an enormous emotional toll on us, I’ve stepped up my liquor intake. Which doesn’t help with good sleep as well.

    At least he is currently fine…
    That was what we were aiming for. And how I am didn’t matter much - until now I got some some more serious problems as well, because of not sleeping and all the stress.

    Sorry for just venting… I’m just finished…



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    Ah, fuck yeah I missed the period…

    Well, my only excuse is that I didn’t got much sleep in the last… 2 months

    Edit: after that fuck up being be so sleep deprived, I’m not confident enough to point out my mistake anymore


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    *he’s
    I know, pedantic, but I don’t understand, how someone can think, that this is grammatically correct.
    I just don’t get, how someone can confuse “his” and “he’s”

    (OK, need to proof read my sentence now to not fuck myself ;-))

    Sorry, I’m misread. Even down voted myself now

    Edit: and seems my formatting skills aren’t working out as well.

    Edit 2: ok, looks better now.
    Yeah, was wrong and misread the sentence. My fault


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    We found our cat young and starving, being left alone outside.
    But he was used to be outside and just locking him in would be cruel.
    He mostly happily hides in a hole or some cellar around, when he is outside anyway.

    We tried giving him a safety collar, but he was already like 6 months old, when we found him and wasn’t used to one. So he always got rid of the safety ones and we were too afraid that he should strangulate himself with a non-safety one.
    He is chipped. So I hope this is enough, when someone catches him.
    But he is very shy with other people and it worked out for 13 years now I’m different areas of the city - sometimes, in his young and wild years, he was gone for 2-3 days, but he always came back happy and hungry :-)



  • Just like an alcoholic has the problem, that he can’t just stop after a beer or two.
    It’s the same mechanism.

    Everything you use to cope with emotions can produce that.
    Like nicotine itself isn’t hard to quit - not much of a physical addiction. But as one used cigarettes as little self rewards and uncomfortable situations, you can’t just give up your tool to manage your emotions.

    The only way out is to face those emotions and solve the original issue. Else you’ll just be hopping through different “helpers”

    Edit: maybe to give an even more extreme example:
    Cocaine doesn’t produce any physical addiction, but because it gives you the feeling of being awake and you suddenly can handle the stress, you’ll fell completely lost and alone without it in those situations.
    That’s why trigger situations are a thing.

    With food, just like cigarettes, it’s even worse, because you use them for good and bad times.
    So the association with feeling good is much harder to break.
    As we need food, this addiction is probably even worse, because you can’t just stop eating all together and face your emotions. So you’re daily tempted with it.
    I personally can’t relate with overeating/“food addiction”, but having spent a month tapering opiate teas (which I used to still be able to work during my burnout), I understand the feeling of constantly looking for an excuse to still do a bit more - just today…
    Because this day was especially bad and I desperately need the crutch, or especially nice and I feel like I wanna celebrate it somehow.









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    I’m 40 and would have no idea how big penis of a toddler should be - and with all growth hormone stuff happening, I wouldn’t feel comfortable at judging at this age (besides that it is mostly irrelevant in long term relationships)

    Also, my personal penis, so to speak, can be very minor, but as a grower I needed to step up my confidence, when being naked - but of curse instead of an actual micro penis, mine seems to be just shy and needs some encouraging words or kisses.
    So maybe I can’t relate.

    Still I think this idea is idiotic