Very vaguely related, I had a somewhat-friend in college who told me about her, her twin, and her year younger sister would fight constantly all the time. Imagine 3 close aged kindergardeners just constantly at each other’s throats when you were really not ready. They were so fed up that they went into the kitchen placed the three of them in equal distances away from the center, and then gave them each a knife and said “Go! If you hate each other so much, kill each other!”

The all started sobbing and hugged each other, and got along a lot better after that.

That’s…def trauma territory, but, it’s an example that human instinct to divided resources (emotional attention from a parent is REQUIRED for children’s psyche) isn’t darwinian. America specifically touts Survival of The Fittest as THE default human psyche and I find that it’s just not true.

I always like the soft clicks it made when communicating on the internet, after the screaming noise, when it settled down. Soft hum of the computer and little clicks as I read a forum post.

A reminder that there are many firefox forks that exist if base firefox is adding unwanted things or you might have different wants, but sites will still “see” firefox in terms of compatibility. I’m using Librewolf with some annoyances (it doesn’t let things fingerprint to the point that it can’t even get your current time), but overall I like it.

You can attach an audio file to a post on mastodon and it gets an embedded player. Just federate a compatible audio file?

https://mastodon.art/@Ossi/111138453327480717

They spoof numbers. It almost always is a number from my state or the area code, very rarely do I get calls from out of state and they are all already labeled “spam risk/telemarketer” when they come in.

Also thank you for writing this comment, I was going to say ios had no way to block unknown numbers, but I searched to double check myself and they finally do have that option! It may have been around for quite awhile, I hadn’t checked for a long while.

One of my favorite videos is this post https://youtube.com/watch?v=IFcyYnUHVBA

What is it about short vertical video that makes people froth insanely at the mouth? Don’t “china” me on it, people whine over youtube shorts, instagram reels, they poopoo on snapchat, loathed twitter stories, and thought vine was a stupid idea. It feels like an ancient redditor thing, but I was in the 11 year club too and it’s just a different type of format for media, media which can be used in many different ways, as always. Like how internet video generally is different to TV.

jokes aside, it’s just not a really attractive title.

I’ve played 48 hours in one of the games in there, Traveller’s Rest, about running a tavern. It has money, supply, employees, trends etc. But I’m not enjoying it because Yay Capitalism! It’s because when you’re running your own cute shop with virtual money it’s fun. I do like the genre, but being reminded of the systems that are causing a lot of real world shit is just a bad title.

But I guess “Business Sim Sale” wasn’t flashy enough.

crime show episode where someone kills often before the purge and preserves the bodies to be found on purge day

I tried to get an ADHD diagnosis and my report came back with a mini-novel about how I was just a hysterical female with self-image issues I displayed as a way to garner praise and attention from those around me. My attention and focus problems were only because I just found the everyday stresses of life so difficult, being so fragile.

Any one who knew me felt disgusted reading it. But it’s made me very hesitant in trying again to get a diagnosis.

I wish! I was trying to login because the government emailed me to remind me and who my servicer is. So THEY know that it’s there somewhere. My service provider probably has the account but I guess lost the data, but they still have SSN + an account somewhere. Just kinda bullshit in general because they aren’t answering emails because of an influx of communication, so call center time with probably hours of wait.

This reminds me that my loan servicer sent me a reminder, to which I could not log on and they couldn’t recover my info through even SSN so I emailed them. I never got a response. Should…probably look into that.

This overall bullshit of doing opt-out fucking sucks. Opt-IN! Pissing off people and the. going “oh well there’s an opt-out” is so stupid. New experimental features that don’t directly benefit the user should be that they must have to opt-in manually. Off by default.

Similar, I’m assuming gmail is a no go? I feel like theoretically it should work but it’s not. However, this may be because I’m using elest.io -> docker, but something’s fucked up with my domain’s SSL and it’s signed by itself. It gives the browser a big huge 'ol unsecured warning, so I would assume that because that’s messed up it’s causing gmail to not accept it? I’ve opened a ticket with them, so eventually maybe I can figure out if that’s the case, I’ve never had a problem pointing namecheap domains to anything before.

It says this, but I assure you, the password is correct.

lemmy_server::api_routes_websocket: email_send_failed: permanent error (535): 5.7.8 Username and Password not accepted. Learn more at5.7.8  https://support.google.com/mail/?p=BadCredentials [long chain of numbers and letters I'm not sure matter] - gsmtp

The settings

  # Email sending configuration. All options except login/password are mandatory
  email: {
    # Hostname and port of the smtp server
    smtp_server: "smtp.gmail.com:587"
    smtp_login: "crystals.rest.lm@gmail.com"
    smtp_password: "[the password]"
    # Address to send emails from, eg "noreply@your-instance.com"
    smtp_from_address: "crystals.rest.lm@gmail.com"
    # Whether or not smtp connections should use tls. Can be none, tls, or starttls
    tls_type: "tls"
  }

I also did start stattls and that didn’t work. Tried swapping ports around, nope.

edit: fixed the ssl issue with elest.io, they just had a configuration wrong, but tbf lemmy support was added literally yesterday

I’ve been wavering back and forth for a little bit. I just know the kbin plays nicer with lemmy than lemmy plays nice with kbin when it comes to discovering remote communities. Being a remote community, I wanted to make sure it’s easier to be off site, but I did just find an easier install with lemmy (I will try this) so we’ll see how that goes

I thought for a moment it was happening to me after coming off of just simply upvoting things about lemmy, but I think I’ve seen other people report that the reddit site is currently on and off shitting itself. (Is it hug of deathing itself? Plenty of people are coming for popcorn.)

I think it would be too fast for reddit to incorporate auto shadow code into the api itself to time out requests from users engaging with lemmy/kbin things, but I’m not really sure.

Yeah the codeberg iirc just lists a set of commands with no idea what you’re doing, so it’s very hard to know if you’ve done something wrong. Usually I would do that, and then edit and look up things as I go, but that was the biggest deadend I’ve ever had. Though, the recommended server provider’s interface, slowness, and bugs wasn’t impressing me, I’d really love if they could make a droplet. (and selfishly a droplet with something that has more options for US servers)

I usually persevere through difficult setups if it’s denying me access or a setting didn’t get flipped, but the whole thing just crashing and debian no longer booting is uhhhhhh. Welp.

I tried to start a kbin instance today and I literally ended up corrupting or deleting debian off the VPS.

So look I’m tryin’ but uh…give me a little time.

Where has that been proven legally?