I think its a frank discussion that would need to be had between you and your partner, sexual frustration is definitely, well, frustrating and can lead to resentment and other negative emotions that no one wants in a relationship. And while it may not be fair to you that you have a high sex drive and you just have to sit there with this person are attracted to and love, its also not fair to pressure them into sex when they dont want it.

Ultimately, it comes down to whether being with that person is worth the lack of sex. Its a hard question to ask yourself but if sex is an important part of the relationship to you, then as much as you love a person they might not be the best partner for you

That looks like a cake of white tea. There are tools called tea picks that can be used to break the leaves apart or break chunks off, but you can also use a dull knife or anything that lets you wedge it in between the leaves. The goal is to break the leaves apart while leaving them as individually intact as possible.

For brewing, water temp does matter but Im not very familair with white tea, I would suggest doing a quick internet search, or you can experiment with different temps between 170°F-ish and boiling. I would recommend starting with a tea infuser basket, that would allow you to steep the loose leaves and remove them when done steeping. You could also look into brewing it gongfu style with a gaiwan or similar brewing vessel, again do a search for gongfu and you will find a plethora of information about tea brewing that way.

The tea subreddit is very beginner friendly, if you are ok with using reddit you can pop over there too, there is a ton of information about brewing guidelines and tea identification

Thats a good point, its definitely a beneficial message to spread to individuals who might be grappling with their sex drive, but it really doesn’t address the issues that arise with mismatched libidos in a relationship.

Personally what I’ve found helpful as someone with a higher libido than my wife is that I let her be the initiator for anytime we will have sex together, otherwise I’ll masturbate. It took a bit of a shift in my thinking as for most of my sexually active life masturbation had been 1. Find porn, 2. jerk off until I cum, 3. continue on with my day, however I’ve found that its much more meaningful to treat it more like when I have sex with a partner. By focusing more on me, and what feels good to me, and not just trying to get through it to the orgasm has made it a much better way for me to bridge the times between having sex with my wife. This has lead to me feeling better fulfilled, and she doesnt feel pressured to have sex when she doesnt want to since I’m not going crazy between the times we fuck. Obviously this may not work for everyone but I’ve certainly found that its helped both of us.

Oh wow, even a half dozen times sounda like it would be unnerving. Glad that it stopped happening though!

Im glad that it was ultimately a fun time even despite the blood!

Yeah I agree that the first time was probably the worst that its been

My first time was in college, with the woman who is now my wife! The first time we fooled around was shortly after we met, we were back in my apartment and she offered me a blowjob which I happily accepted. While it felt really good at first, I started feeling some pain after a few minutes. Turns out that, through a combination of my foreskin not being able to fully stretch around my head at the time, and it being her first time around a penis with a foreskin, mine had torn just a little bit. While it was nothing severe medically, it was definitely enough to keep me from cumming. I offered to go down on her, but that was the end of that hookup.

Our first time having PiV sex was about a month later, my roommates and I put on a little thanksgiving dinner that I had invited her to. We were planning on going to a show on campus after dinner, and so I walked with her back to her apartment for her to grab something before we went to the show. We got to her room, and she just looked at me and said “want to have sex?”. Of course the answer was a resounding yes. It was definitely a little awkward to figure out positioning but we settled into missionary, and I just told her I’ll take it slow and she could tell me if she wanted a change in speed or anything. After a few minutes she said that it was getting uncomfortable so we called it there with neither of us finishing, but both of us excited to keep practicing at a later time.

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