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  • As I said earlier, my initial comment was short, clearly a statement of personal opinion and not aggressive. You have responded with walls of text greatly exaggerating the content of my comment, and made multiple accusations against me, simply because you don’t like the fact I challenged a joke that comes across as homophobic to me.

    You suggest that you also want to challenge homophobia, but somehow, the mild way in which I’ve done it here is still going too far for you, and warrants multiple accusations against my character.

    I hope when you wake up, you can look at this conversation with fresh eyes and re-evaluate your role in it.



  • but we have to stop lashing out on suspicion

    I wrote two sentences about how it feels a bit off to me. I didn’t “lash out”.

    In response, I got a 500 word essay trying to encourage me not to challenge the status quo. The fact that you interpreted a short post, which wasn’t aggressive, and was clearly an expression of a personal opinion as “lashing out” is something I think you should look at. You’re projecting something on to me…

    I went off a little bit, but returning to the comment in question. I don’t believe it was meant in any sort of disregard to any one walk of life.

    I agree, but that doesn’t mean there’s nothing underneath it. Normalised homophobia, racism and sexism are all things. They’re often invisible, which is how they get normalised in the first place. People repeating them often don’t even realise that they are. Challenging those norms is a good thing, because it helps people look at things from a perspective they may not have actively considered before, and that is how change happens.












  • So, a few years back, when my kid was 13 or so, I used to send them memes over discord. This was 6 or 7 years ago now. And I thought, I’m a cool mum, 'cause I use discord to talk to my kid, and I send them memes.

    And one day, I asked my kid if I’m one of the cool parents, 'cause I send them memes, and they said “You send me old memes”. Their friends thought I was cool but my kid? Nah, not so much…

    In all seriousness though, my kid is 20 now, and I have a great relationship with them. Don’t read too much in to it. I don’t think there’s any winning with young teens and pre teens. You’ll never be cool in their eyes, and I think we just have to find our peace with that :)