The Post-Self series by Madison Scott-Clary. This page has short descriptions of the books and links to where you can buy them: https://post-self.ink/
It is broadly about a future where people can upload there minds to a computer system, which makes them (barring some specific and rare circumstances) immortal and allows them to make copies of their uploaded selves. There are multiple non-binary protagonists, one of them also being aromantic and asexual. There are also polyamorous, bisexual and gay characters.
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