why did i waste so much time dealing with my mental health when i could just instead go to lemmy where strangers can tell me how easy it is to deal with. Seriously is changing persoective so hard? as said before i dont even ask for help, or for anyone to change their lives. yet people get so pissed of by the notion that hypersexualisation might be hurtful to one (1) person. (it hurts more but in this thread i feel to be alone on this side)
ill link this short video, since it is more well put then i ever could: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2IrG68YTMjo
I dont ask for much. literally just wanna follow my sfw hobbies without beeing forced to confront my inner demons every day. I agree that i should “get over it”. but maybe you dont realise the scope. this is at best a years long therapy process that in the end might never pay off.
And quite frankly are you also telling war veterans to get a grip, because people like fire work? are you telling parents to stop crying about child protection because if we dont sexualise cartoon characters online we would cease to exist?
i dont even ask to be helped i just wanted to rant. i am aware that 99% of people dont give a damn about trauma. why be so confrontational towards me?
wow. you must have many friends.
yeah i know. i just like to dream of a world where i could live without it. Also i really apprechite lemmy for that. its other sites i struggle with. sites with “cool userfriendly algorithms”
yeah, mine too ^^
i am looking since ereydsterday. eversince the pandemic waitlists are months to years in my country. i moved any couldnt continue with ly old doc. havent found a new one for two years now
Naja, abgesehen davon, dass der Tipp sich nicht bestätigte (die fesgenommenen hatte keinen Haftbefehl gegen sich) und Schusswaffen eingesetzt wurden.
Ich stimme zu, dass der post faules whataboutism ist. Aber es stimmt schon, dass öffentlichwirksam rechtsextremisten weniger aufmerksamkeit und “gewalt” abbekommen als linksextremisten. Was etwas schade ist wenn doch immer versucht wird beide seiten als gleich dar zu stellen.
I think i was in a similar spot before (eventhough it lasted way less years). the problem i realised was, that i put my former partner on a podest. they were my godess/queen or whatever. i realised thats because i was romantacising it way more than it was in reality. I did meet them again after a few years and they seem to have changed. thats when i realised maybe they never changed but i didnt see them for who they are back then with youthfull naivity and rosecolourentainted glasses.
i started to change my mindset, in the sense that i dont need them or any partner for my perfect life. i just need me. i am the most important person in my life now, as it should be. it took time, it took therapy, but i got there and life is better without feeling dependent on such (at least partly) imaginary things.
i hope things turn around for you, and you can enjoy the future. as you said the past cant be changed, but the future can.
Edit: typos
Edit2: my wife has adhd and i love her dearly. just as a reminder that you are lovable too the way you are.
can we also talk about the length of the arms of the person in the back?
That sounds like a lot of stress factors in your life. i wish your family member will recover well and soon. Tbh i had to google these plant since i didn’t know them. they look like quite nice indoor plants. is plant-keeping a hobby of yours? i tried to get into that but my bonsai is barely holding up since i forget to water too often ^^"
Heyho it’s me again. After a rough patch in my life i got a sick note freeing me from work. Thankfully i live in a country that values mental health as highly than physical health. combined with a healthy environment at home i can actively relax and recharge. Ngl i do feel somewhat guilty of letting my coworkers down, but i know rationally its for the better. Today i will meet up with my board game group to play some games. This should be nice, since they all know my struggles and respect my limits. Next week is more active relaxation and self care planned. Wish you all a nice week. Take care!
Thank you very much for your feedback. very apprechiated. i had trouble with languages before. as you can imagine the mod tools on lemmy are not the greatest yet. i think i fixed it, to support all languages now. if you can see this answer it means, it worked :)
okay-ish. i thankfully got some support at home. my job wears me out, but i still got a bit stuff done today, and even went to the gym again. its all not easy, but times like these need self care and awarenes and acceptance. thanks for checking in :)
i can feel this picture. for me it represents the times where i am in a situation that should be calm and relaxing, but somewhere in the back of my head sits this anxiety and makes me paniky and turns the calm scene into a paranoid nightmare. it luckily has been a while since the last time i experienced that big time. i also really like that town. reminds me of my home area, and i love my night walks. this picture perfectly capsules how irrational fear can ruin the nicest thing :( i hope you are in better times now, OP!
So my last week was pretty bad. even worse than the one before. i didnt find any chance to practive self care, and stress just grew more and more. im probably in a depressive episode by now aswell, which seriously impacts my rather healthy social life, since my anxiety is now on rampage. this is double bad since there are many events, and social things i would like to do. i spend the weekend to accept that i have to drop all of those plans and focus on my mental health. hope you week have been better.
oh i kinda want to make a personal goal aswell. my personal goal is to catch up on my chores as much as i can and then reward myself with well earned alone time, and be aware that this is a good thing, and i am allowed to be a little goblin in my little cave form time to time ^^
i did instagram for a while many years ago and it was kinda fun. it is not my cup of tea and it didnt keep me interested for long. but i can tell you that noone cared about me beeing all out of a sudden active online to vanishing again. it doesnt do much for me but i have a friend who has international friends, and social media seems to be a big part to stay in contact for them. i would encourage you to try stuff out, see if you like it or not, and then continue or not. i dont think it is worth to force the use of social media for any reason. and the addiction part is real, and i think its important to check yourself once in a while if your social media consume is high.
i relate so much. makeing a doctors appointment for myself usually takes months of procrastination. for my friend? sure i’ll call, scedule it and acompany them there :D
thank you for that comment. i am trying. communities like this have helped me a lot in the past and i am just happy to be able to give back with relatively low effort. while i know alot about anxiety i know little about moderating online. its my first time, and i am a bit unsure where i am overshooting or underperforming. it is a learning process for me aswell, and we will see what works best. on a related note, i always apprechiate any kind of feedback.
i agree that it can be daunting to post or comment. i certainly dont want anyone to feel pushed. but i want everyone to feel invited if they want to share something. i think and hope we have a community here that is welcoming and not judgeing, to whoever needs it. if noone needs it, that would honestly make me happy ^^ but realistically the modern life is such a catalyst for mental health issues its sad. and all we humans can do is be there for each other, understand, and support.
and finally i wholeheartly agree. selflove is so important, and way to little teached. you also take care of yourself :)
thank you. i dont understand how people meme stuff they obv dont even consume