For the record I was posting in support of inclusive language, but pointing out that context and convention matter.

They seem to have even scrubbed my comment from their instance, lol.

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    I don’t have an issue with the members of the blahaj community, which is why this is unfortunate.

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      You seem like you do by telling them to “get over it” when they ask you not to refer to them in a certain way.

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        No person can predict, much less accommodate every positive or negative perception of a word. At what point do you simply tell people to “get over it” when they are taking a meaning from something you are unaware of, and do not care about? This guy got banned over the word “dude” and it makes the entire community look overly sensitive. Trans people are just people, like the rest of us, and we all have to deal with so much every single day.

        For every single trans person who is offended by calling them “dude”, another would be offended that you’d treat them differently by not calling them “dude”. This is approaching the same type ridiculousness as people getting angry over “happy holidays” instead of “merry christmas” tbh.

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          You don’t have to predict any kind of positive or negative perception of a word. If you misgender me, I’ll tell you “please don’t” to which, if you’re not an asshole, you’ll reply “ok”. Replying “Actually, that’s a neutral word, so just get over it, mmkay?” is asshole behaviour and that is why he got banned.

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            Get off your high horse. The whole thread is about how the guy got shadow banned after not even directly calling anybody anything to their face. Nobody asked him to stop, and I’m sure he would have if someone had asked them to, same for me. But if were having a casual conversation and you get annoyed by the word “dude”, then I’m probably just going to end up wondering what the hell your problem is because I use “dude” casually all the time.

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              Nobody banned him because he said “dude”. You’re only trying to pretend that because you refuse to admit you’re wrong. They banned him because he said people who consider the word “dude” to be a gendered term need to “get over it”. This is not hard to understand.

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                He specifically said in another comment that he would stop if asked. If Lemmy users were punished and held responsible for all these random off-comments taken out of context, half of the user base would be in prison right now, and the other half would be on a watch list for some of the shit I’ve seen people say. Stop choosing to be outraged for the fun of it.