• PsychoNewt@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    So I have this “core memory” mentality to parenting. When my kid does something really annoying (like want to go to the public bathroom just because I’m going) I remind myself that I don’t want this to be the one thing this month/ year he remembers when he’s 20.

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      1 year ago

      This is a fantastic way to look at it keep it up even though it’s hard.

      There’s so many memories I have that are… less than stellar… that I remember from growing up that my relatives don’t recall at all.

      A great way I heard it is, “The axe forgets but the tree remembers.”

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      1 year ago

      That’s an understandable approach.

      On the flip side, that one thing he remembers down the road might just be a critical life lesson. It still might be an important development, even if they remember it negatively. They’d suffer worse if they don’t learn the lesson at all.