This actually works, but only if you are willing to sponsor a green card.
It’s really hard to meet people because all the people I want to know are hiding from humanity.
I don’t want the type of person I’d meet at a bar and there really aren’t many events for things I’m into around me. The people I’d like are more than likely like me, hoping I’d teleport into their living room just the same.
I’m also in a terrible place for my personality. It feels like I’m in materialistic asshat conservative HQ, so there’s that too…
Bentonville,
AKAR?Edit’ wrong state abbreviation. Sorry Alaska! Didn’t mean to offend any of the dozens of you up there.
Long Island actually lol
NY is weird because people have the impression that it’s all blue and chock full of “liberals” but a lot of long island is racist and conservative AF. A lot of “greater NY” is also conservative other than the larger cities. Long Island is also super expensive to live in so you tend to have more wealthy materialistic people here.
Is that in Nigeria? Or more somewhere in Asia?
Arkansas? No. It’s where the Walton’s gentrified the fuck out of what is now basically “their town.”
Man I feel personally attacked
I mean, we are not 100% unfindable, we comment here on Lemmy! Normalize finding love through Lemmy (/jk).
People should normalize finding love through online communities.
Does having a cat count as being in a relationship? Because I feel like it should. I used to have a tuxedo cat who I actually got married to all the time. I couldn’t help it, he was all dapper.
They better fuckin not!
Teleports behind you
Nothing personal, kid
About bloody time, I’ve been waiting for you, now hurry up and do this!
the great touring jam bands provided a wonderful environment to meet new people in back in the 90’s. the parking lots of grateful dead and phish concerts were chock full of society’s misfits, many of them well-read and witty (some of them not-so-much). It was not introverted at all - there were so many outgoing, lively, and fun people.
i think many of you are more outgoing than you give yourself credit for. you just live in a world where you don’t want to mingle with the inhabitants, and i think that might even reflect a skewed view of the outside world. i’m pretty far left and i still have fun in bars in little ranch towns in the western states. most of those people are more fun than your average morose, urban-dwelling shoe gazer.
The main issue for a lot of people is a lack of good third places.
Combine less and less free time outside of work, with higher nationwide costs affecting access to third places that you would otherwise congregate with people in, (i.e. cafes, bars, clubs, etc) and you get people who, while probably somewhat outgoing, are unable to actually be outgoing, since there’s not a good place to express that in.
teleports behind you Nothing personal, kid… But would you like to be the love of my life?
teleports behind you
gives you the hug you desperately need
(Me trying to catch up all the parallel universes my SO is ahead of me … and barely holding back tears) Special technique: blast of emotional damage miasma that inflicts 1000 years worth of existential dead per second purely by proximity to me!
But I’m glad you have moral standards & appropriately chose an empty place where we can have our duel.
My SO was appointed directly into my room by a mutual friend, so it’s not far fetched.
Wingman of the year!
*woman
But yes, absolutely!Womanman of the year!
I’m fucking waiting!!
(Yet still need a notice, written notice, days ahead)
Wait what else am I supposed to do, overcome trauma and go outside (>ᆺ<)
Go create new traumas, those old ones are stale.
Dont worry my traumas get reinforced with new failures all the time
Sounds like you’re living just like the rest of us friend :) Always good remembering that the person who thinks of your awkward moments the most is yourself, and just not dwell on them too long
Have yourself a lovely day!
LMAO what is this from? It looks hilarious!
It’s from the movie Animal House. :) One of my favorite scenes ever (because who hasn’t been that kid? lol).
I’m still waiting for this to happen…
Make sure your windows are open wide enough to allow a person to jump through.
Worked for me! Roommate was throwing a party and my now-wife got dragged along to it by her friend
Same, but it was my cousin doing the dragging.
Same, but it was my cousin… doing the dragging.
Y’all got set up.
Sounds like an invasion of my privacy! I could be doing art at that moment, or some kind of lore deep dive. How rude to just teleport in like that!
I noticed you were reading through the Babylon 5/Star Trek crossover fan-wiki and I find that very attractive…
Introverts make friends by letting an extrovert adopt them.
Yea. My strat is to be friends with the extrovert and then identify the other introverts who’re also friends with them and go be by ourselves together. I then return the favor by encouraging the introverts I’m now friends with to go to his outings.
Can confirm, my cousin adopted me and introduced me to their friends.
reminder to my fellow extraverts to treat their introvert extra well today, they might need it
This is so true! I have many other friends now because my best friend is a textbook example of an extrovert. He just knows people anywhere we go or at least someone knows him.
A buddy of mine got his first girlfriend in college after a family friend noticed that his single niece also liked manga and anime and introduced the two. I was very jealous of his attractive, nerdy girlfriend-turned-wife for several years until I finally got on a dating site and found love for myself.
I finally got on a dating site and found love for myself.
Luckyyy! I was on them for over a decade, but because of my location there’s a body of water separating all the cool people I’d see on there from me… Everyone around me is like the literal opposite of me.
I dunno how you went about it, but I’ve given some pointers to friends who weren’t having any luck with online dating, and a lot of them were being too passive about it, basing their potential match choices mainly off of “vibes” and sending mostly generic opening messages - the quantity-over-quality approach.
While I was on the site, I spent hours a day going through every single person’s profile - looking it over to really get as best of an understanding of the person as I could - and if I took interest in a few points, I’d send a message personalized to them based on what I saw on their profile. I also made sure that my own profile was well fleshed out, filling every field with well thought out responses, and putting up pictures of me hanging out with friends and doing activities like cooking and going to an amusement park.
Some, though not all, of the people who followed my advice eventually found success through dating sites. If you haven’t tried all this, I’d suggest giving it a shot. If you have, sorry for being presumptuous, and I hope that you find who you’re looking for eventually.
I spent hours a day going through every single person’s profile - looking it over to really get as best of an understanding of the person as I could - and if I took interest in a few points, I’d send a message personalized to them based on what I saw on their profile. I also made sure that my own profile was well fleshed out, filling every field with well thought out responses
I appreciate the advice, but I did all of this as well! I just don’t have the pictures of adventures because that’s not me lol I used to do a lot of hiking, but I’ve noticed a lot of profiles mention “I don’t care about your hiking or catching fish” (I don’t fish, but it was a common thing I’d read.) I think it’s just the kinds of people around me are too different than I am.
My self image definitely doesn’t help either. I’m of the age where everyone is a professional and I’m just a worthless shitbag factory supervisor.
Being a factory supervisor isn’t a worthless shitbag job.
It sure pays like one lol a bit better than a lot of other jobs an “uneducated” schmuck like me can get I suppose. I think it’s just how society views some types of jobs that leaves me feeling worthless.
That sucks, bud. I hope your future love makes their way to your living room eventually!
Thanks! I always keep a window open just in case! Lol :P
Atlantic Ocean?
That too lol but really the Long Island sound. A lot of people from Connecticut seem up my alley, but they’re an expensive ferry and hours and hours away…
My family friends do not know any other nerdy weebs…
