• Furbag@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    If you are trying to share a personal story or have contextual questions about my story, please ask them, because getting defensive about your own assumptions related to straw men scenarios you are propping up is bewilderingly off-topic.

    Uh, what? I think you’re the one who is getting defensive here.

    You are continually making incorrect assumptions and drawing false conclusions about someone you don’t know and have not tried to learn about.

    Again, if you feel the need to share or ask questions, by all means go ahead, but try to divorce your own assumptions and preoccupations from my experiences.

    Oh! Now I think I see what’s happening here…

    I’m not trying to make any assumptions or conclusions. Yes, I am just sharing a personal anecdote with you. We’re having a conversation, not a debate. Sorry if you took that the wrong way. I’m not trying to convince you that you are wrong about anything, because quite frankly, I don’t think I’d be able to do that nor do I have the desire, especially since I don’t know anything about you that you haven’t already shared.

    On that note, I think I’ll excuse myself from the thread. Have a good’un.

    • Varyk@sh.itjust.works
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      5 months ago

      “Oh! Now I think I see what’s happening here…”

      What do you think is happening?

      “I’m not trying to make any assumptions or conclusions.”

      You are repeatedly drawing incorrect conclusions based on false assumptions:

      “…I don’t think it was so much her desire to confirm to some capitalist expectation of paying an enormous sum just to live in one place on the grid (because honestly nobody wants that)”

      which is an incorrect conclusion based on a false assumption.

      You are clearly trying to have a debate from false premises:

      Your vague platitudes of

      “…but it’s not for everyone…” and “Not everyone can fit their entire lives into a tiny home or an RV…”

      falsely implies that someone argued RVs are for everyone, which didn’t happen and is clearly not the point of my comment.

      Then you pretend your attack against me is actually an attack against you with classic gaslighting:

      “We’re having a conversation, not a debate. Sorry if you took that the wrong way”

      https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mental-health-revolution/202203/i-m-sorry-you-feel-way-and-other-gaslighting-tactics#:~:text=Gaslighting subject matter experts caution against addressing the,engagement and incites further gaslighting from the abuser.

      You argue that some people just need "stability and space to spread out, which are often in short supply ", defining spreading out as a living room and a coffee table, not acres of land, ignoring that 1. material possession(acres, houses, coffee tables) are simple to acquire given immediate financial independence and 2. You are still mistaking the liberty of having the ability to do anything you want for the supposedly fearful theoretical momentary lack of specific possessions.