• Sop@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    9 months ago

    Yes, and that’s a trope that’s often used to invalidate the experiences of non binary people. We live in a society where gender does matter a lot and telling someone to stop caring about their own gender because it’s a social construct is transphobic. You can argue all you want about the meaning of gender, just don’t use it to invalidate nb or trans people, which is what the person I replied to was doing.

    • theneverfox@pawb.social
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      9 months ago

      I don’t think that’s a fair reading of what they said at all

      Gender is indeed irrelevant at all times. It doesn’t exist. It’s a set of expectations you impose on another person and have imposed on you… Realizing I don’t have to explain anything to anyone is my personal answer, I just need to stop forcing myself to pretend.

      Gender roles exist, but only to people who believe in them. You can break them at any time. You don’t need a category, you can just be you, moment to moment.

      I can’t think of a more accepting position for non-binary or genderfluid people… Some people need external validation, but ultimately it’s about how you see yourself