• VikingHippie@lemmy.wtf
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      1 year ago

      Yeah. While still not good, at least toxic self-deprecation/self-critical fatalism is more sympathetic than complete abdication of responsibility 🤷

      • danc4498@lemmy.world
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        Nah, there’s no self deprecation in that. It’s more like they’re just rationalizing their shitty behavior ahead of time by pretending they have a characteristic that’s entirely out of their control.

        “Sorry I’m just [choosing to be] a bitch” is more accurate.

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          I’m with you most of the way (hence why I used words like “not good” and “toxic”), but who said anything about ahead of time?

    • HikingVet@lemmy.sdf.org
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      Worked with a couple people over the years who straight out said they are hard to deal with. Had much less problems with them than those who said “they could work with anyone”

    • LetterboxPancake@sh.itjust.works
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      “Look, I’m not good with people, especially when I find them annoying. So if you think I’m a bitch it’s just because I don’t like you 💖”