• Sombyr@lemmy.zip
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    14 hours ago

    I feel like kids are pressured to much to find love and get married before they’re even sure what love is. Not sure if this is an unpopular opinion, but we gotta stop telling kids that true love is a feeling or that “they’ll know it when they find it.”
    In actuality, you can never be sure a relationship will succeed or if it’s “true” love. Real “true” love isn’t just a feeling, is the result of an already successful relationship. It’s when you make it for years and years and have had time to grow together and you find that you’ve been able to grow with each other enough to have confidence that it’s going to continue to work.
    When you teach kids to rely only on their feelings and not look at things objectively, every love starts to look like true love to them, trapping themself in a relationship, even when they end up hating their partner, which when everyone’s doing it just becomes the norm, never questioning if things could be better.