I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

  • TheBananaKing@lemmy.world
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    17 hours ago

    You don’t actually spoon the whole way, just up to the waist, leaving a bit of a gap between your chest and partner’s shoulders.

    Upper arm goes round partner as normal, lower arm rests elbow on mattress, forearm vertical across their back, hand holds their upper shoulder.

    Plenty of contact still, but your arm doesn’t die, you don’t get their hair tickling your face all night and you get to use your own pillow.

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      10 hours ago

      This would work if my bed were no lt an unconscious battle field for space; if no-man’s-land exists it will be eagerly taken up, any inch given is another inch towards my partners unconscious goal of making me fall off my side of the bed. Either that or they want to be close to me. But a good thought :P

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        8 hours ago

        Forgive my terrible phone doodle, but I think this is what’s being suggested. Basically, you’re groin-to-ass below, but above your chest is not pressed directly against the front partner’s back. Instead, you position the lower arm so your forearm runs across their back, and wrap the upper arm over them in a half embrace.