• PotentialProblem@sh.itjust.works
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    1 day ago

    What’s to stop anyone today from having an open conversation with their partner about opening their relationship? In the examples above, no one is vilifying having an open relationship… it’s vilifying lying and dishonesty.

    Even if we were to normalize infidelity, that doesn’t mean anyone should be beholden to accepting it in their relationship. Your argument is akin to saying “lying is widespread because it comes from human nature” so we should just normalize lying.

    F that noise.

    • Machinist@lemmy.world
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      20 hours ago

      Healthy open relationships at scale will require some pretty big changes in society.

      Communication, critical thinking, self-actualization, Maslow’s Hierarchy; all those things will have to be improved both in society-at-large and within the educational system. Most of the world will not function well in polyamory without basically redoing society.

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        17 hours ago

        Healthy open relationships at scale will require some pretty big changes in society.

        Most notably the fact that comparatively few peopple want them would have to change.

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          14 hours ago

          Eh. Humans are cheating serial monogamists for the most part. I don’t think lifelong monogamy is something we evolved for. Trying to keep it as the standard leads to all the problems we have. The whole patriarchal model that dominates the world is a result of monogamy and inheritance.

          It’s pie in the sky utopian stuff, at this point.

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      1 day ago

      I mean the. Catholic church, patriarchy, most Major religions come to think of it.

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        22 hours ago

        It goes so far that a lot of the very same people vilifying open relationships are the ones cheating on their partners.