• DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca
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    5 days ago

    Yeah as a bottom with a large partner with delayed ejaculation I can say that while people seem to value length and stamina/lasting power in porn… the reality is there’s advantages to not accidentally knocking the absolute stuffing out of your partner and tiring them to the bone whenever you do the deed.

    • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
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      5 days ago

      Yes please. I’m sorry guys, but it’s not a super power to “be able to keep going and going” without effort. That’s called desensitivity, and it’s troubling.

      I don’t like always having to be the one to decide when sex has to stop. I don’t like when every act ends because I’m getting sore. It makes me feel like a buzzkill. If you can’t sometimes stop yourself first, sex risks becoming a chore for your partner to endure, instead of a mutually-enjoyable act of bonding.

      YMMV, talking to your partner is better than assuming anything based off a Lemmy comment. This is just some food for thought.