• BenLeMan@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    Alternative suggestion: Set up a local “Men Seeking Females” group so they can filter you right out.

    Yes. You read that right.

    (oh, and the above is not directed at you, @Stamets. But this belongs in c/menandfemales)

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      1 day ago

      Are you pretending the language “females” & “males” is abnormal in classifieds, personals, & marketplaces?

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        If I’m not mistaken, it seems like it’s more a stereotype of men that refer to themselves as men but women as females.

        Idk, I could be wrong - but that’s how I’m seeing it. The idea also invokes the thought of a particular type of incel.

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            22 hours ago

            The OP’s picture has the word “men” somewhere? Seems like a joke.

            The “stereotype” seems a bit of a reach & makes about as much sense as a stereotype of carrying keys. Like “carrying keys is such classic incel behavior” or “using females is incel speak”: sure, if you ignore their regularity by anyone anywhere else. Seems more a failure of general observation that demands a bit of pretense to overlook & speaks volumes more about the type of person who’d repeat such ideas.

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              No, and I am strictly dictating this to you — casually referring to women as if they’re simply females of reproductive age is the biggest self report you can output. If you want women to immediately distrust you, speak like this.

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                17 hours ago

                Here’s an example quoting a story in the news:

                “What if I would have been armed,” she said. “You’re breaking in. What am I supposed to think? My initial thought was we were being robbed—that my daughters, being females, were being kidnapped. You have guns pointed in our faces. Can you just reprogram yourself and see us as humans, as women? A little bit of mercy. […]"

                Is that mother committing “the biggest self report” by referring to her daughters as females or are you just wrong? Examples like this abound in nonsexist language.

                Uncritically treating the noun female like a dirty word & going after any use of it is ironically misogynist in effect despite intent to counteract misogyny. Feminism deserves better than moronic language policing that promotes sexism.

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                  16 hours ago

                  men referring to themselves as men but women as females

                  Oh, my mistake — I didn’t realize I was dealing with an American. This is where I refer to ‘literacy below a 3rd grade level’ and how you should try to stay on topic.

                  Edit: To further my point — she is not casually referring to her daughters as simply being females of reproductive age. She’s pointing it out because it’s a very clear factor in the threatening circumstance they were in.

                  This is in no way, shape or form, the same thing as an incel referring to a woman as a female and themselves as a man.

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                    16 hours ago

                    What are you quoting and what men/males are you referring to?

                    An example of a male referring to female humans as females would indicate misogyny to you. But an example of woman clearly using the word inoffensively without solicitation proves nothing?

                    No conceivable possibility can contradict your position: you’re confirmation bias personified.

                    Maybe explain what you’d expect to show that men can refer to older male humans and female (in the context of humans) can refer to female humans of any age?