I’ve seen this mentality way too much on Reddit subs. Often by the same people that say they are just “neurospicy” and that ADHD is quirky and makes up their entire identity. God that shit is cringe.
Even saw someone recently ask people if they would cure their ADHD if scientists came up with a cure. 90% of the responses were by sane people saying, “WTF question is that? Yes, I would cure it, it’s a disability!” and the op was just replying to them that ADHD was the reason they were creative and was their identity… Bro… Sometimes, I feel like some of these people aren’t even real.
To be fair, if you’ve been diagnosed as an adult, ADHD is a huge part of who you are. You’ve lived with it your entire life and you’ve developed coping mechanisms accordingly.
I was diagnosed at 24, it’s just a disability. It’s not part of who I am at my core. Developing coping mechanisms to deal with the disability isn’t part of me, it’s necessity.
If you can make it so I never had it, I’m in. No idea what that would mean for me, how I’d suddenly be a different person, but if it means I get to not have all the bullshit memories from my childhood and instead have had a nOrMaL life, yes please.
Just “curing” it, as in, I don’t have it anymore starting now, wouldn’t do me any good.
I mean many “sane” people, myself included, wouldn’t “cure” their disabilities because it is part of who they are. I’d rather society cure itself of its ableism than me have to change who and what I am. I have more issues than just my ADHD though, and “curing” all that would fundamentally make me a completely different human being. To each their own though.
I disagree with that way of thinking, it really isn’t sane to me. ADHD isn’t “part of who I am”, just like my myopia isn’t either. It’s not part of my personality, it’s just a disability I inherited. I can cure my myopia with laser eye surgery and when I get enough money to, I absolutely will and if there’s a cure for ADHD, I absolutely will cure it the same way I will my myopia. Disabilities aren’t my personality. Curing them won’t change who I am as a person (my brother and mother got laser eye surgery for their severe myopia… their personalities didn’t change, btw). That way of thinking is so damn reductive to me.
You’re welcome to believe what you want to, and I didn’t try to convince you that you shouldn’t. Personally, I believe I am the sum of both my positive life experiences and successes, as well as the challenges, pain and trauma, for better or worse. Now, if they came up with a cure tomorrow for my connective tissue disorder, would I take it? You’re damn right I would. But given the choice of “pressing the button” and being born without it, I absolutely would not, because to do so would mean that I will have never existed. It’s the same reason I, as a trans woman, don’t wish I was born a cis girl. These things have inextricably made me who I am, I wouldn’t just be a “different” person without them, but entirely unrecognisable.
I deeply disagree with you as a transman myself. My core never changed after transition… I was still me regardless of how people saw me before, during and after (took 15 years). I was just getting treatment (a cure of sorts). My medical conditions (or disabilities) don’t define my personality or who I am as a person. That’s absolute nonsense.
You aren’t going to change my mind, and honestly this is becoming insulting, so I’m going to take my leave. I hope you have a good day, evening or night wherever you may be!
I’m not even trying to; I’m just categorically disagreeing with you, which you don’t like. Remember, you replied to me to disagree, because you most likely didn’t like my position to begin with. I’m clarifying my position and why I don’t agree, since you replied to me. But yes, thank you. You too.
but ADHD is such a gift how could we ever end up depressed??!?
I’ve seen this mentality way too much on Reddit subs. Often by the same people that say they are just “neurospicy” and that ADHD is quirky and makes up their entire identity. God that shit is cringe.
Even saw someone recently ask people if they would cure their ADHD if scientists came up with a cure. 90% of the responses were by sane people saying, “WTF question is that? Yes, I would cure it, it’s a disability!” and the op was just replying to them that ADHD was the reason they were creative and was their identity… Bro… Sometimes, I feel like some of these people aren’t even real.
To be fair, if you’ve been diagnosed as an adult, ADHD is a huge part of who you are. You’ve lived with it your entire life and you’ve developed coping mechanisms accordingly.
But I get what you’re saying!
I was diagnosed at 24, it’s just a disability. It’s not part of who I am at my core. Developing coping mechanisms to deal with the disability isn’t part of me, it’s necessity.
If you can make it so I never had it, I’m in. No idea what that would mean for me, how I’d suddenly be a different person, but if it means I get to not have all the bullshit memories from my childhood and instead have had a nOrMaL life, yes please.
Just “curing” it, as in, I don’t have it anymore starting now, wouldn’t do me any good.
I mean many “sane” people, myself included, wouldn’t “cure” their disabilities because it is part of who they are. I’d rather society cure itself of its ableism than me have to change who and what I am. I have more issues than just my ADHD though, and “curing” all that would fundamentally make me a completely different human being. To each their own though.
I disagree with that way of thinking, it really isn’t sane to me. ADHD isn’t “part of who I am”, just like my myopia isn’t either. It’s not part of my personality, it’s just a disability I inherited. I can cure my myopia with laser eye surgery and when I get enough money to, I absolutely will and if there’s a cure for ADHD, I absolutely will cure it the same way I will my myopia. Disabilities aren’t my personality. Curing them won’t change who I am as a person (my brother and mother got laser eye surgery for their severe myopia… their personalities didn’t change, btw). That way of thinking is so damn reductive to me.
You’re welcome to believe what you want to, and I didn’t try to convince you that you shouldn’t. Personally, I believe I am the sum of both my positive life experiences and successes, as well as the challenges, pain and trauma, for better or worse. Now, if they came up with a cure tomorrow for my connective tissue disorder, would I take it? You’re damn right I would. But given the choice of “pressing the button” and being born without it, I absolutely would not, because to do so would mean that I will have never existed. It’s the same reason I, as a trans woman, don’t wish I was born a cis girl. These things have inextricably made me who I am, I wouldn’t just be a “different” person without them, but entirely unrecognisable.
I deeply disagree with you as a transman myself. My core never changed after transition… I was still me regardless of how people saw me before, during and after (took 15 years). I was just getting treatment (a cure of sorts). My medical conditions (or disabilities) don’t define my personality or who I am as a person. That’s absolute nonsense.
You aren’t going to change my mind, and honestly this is becoming insulting, so I’m going to take my leave. I hope you have a good day, evening or night wherever you may be!
I’m not even trying to; I’m just categorically disagreeing with you, which you don’t like. Remember, you replied to me to disagree, because you most likely didn’t like my position to begin with. I’m clarifying my position and why I don’t agree, since you replied to me. But yes, thank you. You too.