I need major help with this. I am stagnating in life, I don’t know where to go next due to this issue.

The things I like to do (in cycles bc, as title said i dont stick to hobbies) are always something super competitive or don’t make any money. I like to learn, so I dive into all sorts of hobbies like coding, 3D art, vfx, video game development, a whole bunch of random things (but are generally about creation).

I do not have the ambition, motivation, or lasting interest to pursue just one of these things, ESPECIALLY not as a career. If I pick a career path based on a passing interest, I will hate my career and become even more depressed, and honestly just quit no matter the consequences (ive done this with jobs). I literally will pour hours of dedication into learning something random like coding (on this right now), and drop it next week like I never touched it and move on to another thing. I cant force myself to go back to it, either. This is a painful process to me, it’s as though my learning is all in vain as I let my knowledge fade away, and worse, this makes it so I CANNOT settle on a career.

If anyone has any advice for me, I am open to every and all suggestions. If you have been through similar and got through it, please let me know how. I do take adderall btw.

edit: thank you all for your thoughtful responses, i have read them and i do plan on answering as soon as i have the time! thank you guys so so much 💜

#adhd

  • ironic_elk@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    I’m not sure if this is an answer as much as reassurance but I have the same issue as you. However, I’m luckily in a job I like. It’s not because of the actual job. It’s just a desk job where I fill out forms and maybe make some phone calls and do some money movement requests.

    But I like it because of the people I work with. My boss treats me like a human. It’s a small office (5 people including me and boss). My co-workers are nice. And it just has a good vibe. I never get stressed because we can always fix everything. That’s the motto my boss has.

    And before that, I worked at Walmart. Honestly. It was mixed. I really liked a few of my coworkers. We really got along and it really helped me enjoy going to work. But also I would have stress at night that I might have forgotten to wipe crumbs off one table which would be cause for write up after a couple times.

    Its not like I planned for any of those. They just kinda happened. I’m not passionately writing programs or creating art/logos with lots of love or stuff like that. But I do feel fulfilled because I can do that stuff on my time off. And it doesn’t matter that my hobby changes every month since it’s my hobby and not something tied to my employment.

    And if you do get a job where you’re actually miserable at, don’t be afraid to move. Some people I’ve seen seem to think you can only change jobs if you’re fired or let go. But you can always look around until you find a place that works for you.