Like the age requirement for most Lemmy instances (except for a few which I believe are 13+ or no age due to not being NSFW), I’m 24F. I’m married and live with my wife at her house.
My sister Lena is 9 years younger than me (2010, 14F) and currently has a boyfriend Dominic (16).
One day, my sister’s friend from school (I’m not sure who, so I’ll say Kate) had a group call with some friends and invited Lena to meet them. She saw Dominic there and decided to talk to him one-on-one. For now, they just do audio and video calls, but they both found out they apparently live in the same state (he asked: “Where are you from? I’m from [insert state here]”.)
As an adult and her older sister, I’m not her legal guardian, but seeing as we’ve seen his face and he already knows her friend, I’m fine with it.
Our dad, though, is pretty cautious. Lena says she’s tried everything she could think of, from going to the movies, to going to some other public places, to just having him outside of the house or on the sofa in the house.
Dad is concerned that since they’re both teenagers, they’re going to do sexual stuff even if both of them stay right there in his sight. Like I said, I’m not her legal guardian, but if it were me, I’d say it was fine as long as they didn’t leave my sight (or if he came over to the house, if they keep the bedroom door open or don’t go in there at all.)
I’m glad they’re calling, since the relationship will probably feel more real than just 24/7 texting, but I feel like it would be good for Lena to actually see Dominic in person and become physically close (in the non-sexual sense of hugging, hand holding, etc.)
This is a slippery slope situation, but I hate slippery slope arguments.
It’s time for a full and frank conversation with your sister.
Everyone who loves her and cares for her is trying to protect her, but ultimately she’s rapidly approaching the age where she has some responsibility and autonomy and if she sets her mind to it she will find a way to get in to trouble.
The elephant in the room that’s perhaps obvious to everyone but her is that meeting one time and standing around isn’t going to satisfy both lovers for 2 years. What is the plan? Where to from here? Inevitably they will want more time together and that’s when things will get really complicated. What if she wants to go visit for a few days?
She also needs to know about the imbalance of responsibility between her and Dominic just because sex for him is a brief encounter but for her it carries the potential for a lifelong commitment in the form of a child.
It’s hard but really she needs to realise that she’s playing a pretty serious game, and her best option is to keep it strictly online for a few more years.