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Relationship Advice@lemmy.worldEnglish · 3 days ago

Should I forget about this guy?

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Should I forget about this guy?

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Relationship Advice@lemmy.worldEnglish · 3 days ago

Honestly it’s a long story but I got a bunch of red flags. It’s not that I don’t like him but I am just very suspicious.

For me the worst part is that he seems emotionally unavailable. Like he takes so long to respond all the time I honestly think he is seeing other people (if he doesn’t have a wife and kids already, lol).

Last time we saw each other he said we should grab a bite to eat sometime but he hasn’t messaged me at all since then, and I’m realizing this is kind of a pattern with him.

I feel like either he isn’t that interested in me, or … I mean that’s pretty much the only option tbh

So I should just cut him off, right? I mean if he ever does message me I bet it’ll be days from now…

Maybe I’m just too clingy but either way, I don’t think we’re compatible in that case. I’m not used to men being this distant tbh. Usually when I go on a date the guy wants to lock things in really fast and like… cares about maintaining my interest

Edit: in case he does eventually reach out, how can I decline while letting him know why (not cause I didn’t like him but because he doesn’t seem present enough)? Or is it better to just not respond or block him?

I’m mostly worried he will catch me when I’m lonely and then I will make the horrible decision of seeing him again

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I think your efforts and attentions are better focused elsewhere. If and when he expresses interest again, maybe you won’t even feel the same way you do now?
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  I don’t know, this whole thing is just a trainwreck. If he does message me to hang out I might say yes because I’m lonely but I know I shouldn’t and he doesn’t have what I need

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